I can understand them feeling worried about you dancing on a picnic bench but shouting at you to get down is very patronising! I went on holiday with 3 friends who are very nearly 60 and they kept worrying about me walking and kept asking if I needed a taxi when we walked each day back to the hotel which I found very annoying as I do the most walking in general out of all of us! It was the constant asking which I found annoying.
People are definitely fussing, it comes from a place of care and love. But I 100% agree, it’s so frustrating. I’ve been told that the extreme fatigue that comes from hormones is actually me going runs (which I used to do before pregnancy so it’s fine, nhs recommends exercise), and i have made myself feel that way. That’s really frustrating as the symptoms of pregnancy are not brought on by me… (and not what they probably mean but it makes me rant!😂)
I can totally understand the good intentions from other mothers, but the worst is when it's someone who thinks they know better but never experienced pregnancy. My cousin (never been pregnant) lectured me when I said I have the rare bath for my back pain & sciatica. Her "knowledge" is based on an IG post. 💀 When I explained it's fine if the water isn't too hot, she then shamed me for not using a bath thermometer, as if I'm willingly harming my baby by having a mfing bath for my severe pains. 😬 I'm usually very patient with people like this, but she's the "I know better than everyone bc I read one sentence about this" type, over stepping the line every single time. I have to keep her at arms length now and am dreading her seeing me and my baby after it's born. It's sad bc other than this, we're incredibly close. Another fun story about her poor boundaries - she told another cousin that her baby has autism just because at 1 years old she didn't respond or react when she waved and said hi to the baby. 💀
Totally agree 😩🤣 i find it bossy and patronising 🙃🙃 xx