Feeling invisible

I’m wondering if anyone else feels this way, I have a 2.5 year old and an 8 week old. Ever since my first son was born my friends pulled back and I rarely see anyone outside of my family, I’ve accepted this and see it as a fact of life that now that I’ve got kids my friends don’t see me as relatable or interesting anymore. It hurts that we now only speak occasionally but what’s worse is I’ve lost all interest in looking after myself, I don’t see the point in getting dressed in nice clothes and putting on make up because what’s the point? Nobody cares to see me so why bother looking nice, it feels like a waste buying make up and nice things for myself because who cares? My husband loves me regardless and is the best husband I could ever ask for, so I also don’t feel the need to dress up for him either. I guess I just feel like I’ve given up on myself, has anyone got any advice or motivation?
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I don’t have any advice unfortunately but I feel the same! I didn’t realise how lonely I would feel! My husband goes away with work for months at a time and having no family or friends with kids close to me just makes it even worse. I also don’t feel like venting to my friends about it cause I’m scared they’ll just find me annoying. I also don’t feel like looking after myself but I always try and put some makeup on and nice clothes on even if I’m just going to stay home but I guess it helps to make me feel like myself again. I’m hoping it’s just a phase!!

Don't give up on yourself, for a while it's okay to not care about appearance it's understandable you've just been through a lot and if people really care they will understand. eventually in time you can start making an effort again when things are settled and you will feel yourself again don't worry just when it gets to that time go and book to get your hair done or nails or get new clothes try and cheer yourself up and the old you will come back again believe me I've been there just do it for you aslong as your happy!

Some of my best friends I have made from meeting people from my 4 year old, last year she became good friends with a girl at nursery so I ended up talking to her mum on the pickups and we are so close now, a better friendship then some of the friendships I had before having kids. Don't give up on yourself! Xxx

I have a 3 year old and since my second was born I feel completely lost. Can’t explain it well but like you everyone seems to have disappeared, my old friends are working and busy, I don’t know if I have the energy or the ability to find new ones so it’s super lonely. I’m going to sign up for some baby groups so that I can have some human interaction in the day and hope that helps. I have no idea what the new normal is yet but I hope it isn’t this as I just feel a bit lost 🙈

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