Thank you so much for your reply! It is so tough, and I've only scratched the surface of how weird our relationship is. My sister actually suggested the combined announcemt. I said yes to initially but then wanted to have a unique and special moment so decided to do it separately. I'm just worried they'll have different reactions (I'm the eldest, my sister has always said they favourite me) and she will be there in real time with them so we'll be left on facetime 😅. Also while I'm very happy for her as she's been obsessed with being pregnant for the last decade, I don't particularly approve of her partner who's almost double her age and has never spoken to us before... 😬 It's so tough. I don't want to force my mum but also I'm a bit like come in guys, you haven't seen me or my husband in ages, we just bought a house, surely they want to see it. 🙈
@Lauren I'm so glad yours went well though! 😊 Were you far apart with your sister in law in terms of due date? I'm also wondering if that won't be too much to take in in one go for my mum and dad. 😅 I'll try my best to insist on having a facetime before Friday ha! Thanks again for your reply x
Yes that’s the other option - really insist on the fact that you need to speak with them this week. Maybe also reassure them it doesn’t need to be long if that’s the concern of feeling tired or something from the treatment. Hopefully you’ll be able to do your plan and surprise them! We were 10 weeks apart, this was for my last pregnancy. We told them Christmas Day 2022 and had my girl in 29th June and they had theirs 5th Sep. Currently pregnant again and haven’t decided how to share yet.
I think I'll do that. Thank you! My MIL (who I have the best relationship with) mentioned I could also say to them I've got something important to discuss with them (nothing bad, but important) which I thought was a good idea. Thank youuu!! 😊 Oh wah that's cool! That's my first and I'm 35, so for their French old school minds that's very very late to have a first child. 😅 Congrats on your new pregnancy! Xx
Gosh that is so tough! Could your sister and you do a joint announcement? Maybe she could help facilitate the call with you and have you on FaceTime and give your Mum the gift you sent and then they open that and she also say I’m pregnant and they get a double surprise! I only suggest because I actually did this with my husbands parents as my sister in law was also pregnant. They are all in Australia so we’re together and we were on FaceTime and said we’re pregnant at the same time and the shock was crazy. Worked really well! Still incorporate your idea but then no one is announcing over the other and you get to them sooner. I think it is odd to not want to speak with you but it’s really hard to judge and families are strange at times. I also don’t know what it’s like to of been undergoing treatment. Sometimes reactions don’t end up what you hope them to be which is tough when you are excited so also know that all that matters is you & your partner and bub on the way.