I'd say it depends on if they can be trusted or not. In my personal case, the baby mama even tried to get me to get her back with my husband😂😂😂 so that obviously led me to not be okay with her saying things without me viewing it. My husband obviously wouldn't entertain that, but I feel the respect should be shown from the mother as well because we're all adults. Communication shouldn't exist about anything other than their child, so if that's what's happening id say youre right to be upset. To me, if two people want to continue to chat and be friends outside of just being parents then they should've stayed together
leave the gc & let the parents co-parent. when your bonus baby is with you that’s when you’re presence is better served.. it’s best for your peace & sanity. I just went through a separation with my husband & this was one of the factors that i wasn’t happy with.