What do you think about people who are struggling and don't like your suggestions

But you know better because you have experience and they just want to stay stuck in their ways
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I guess in my mind I want to know if they are telling you they are struggling and want help or are you just offering your advice/suggestions because you think they are struggling. People are afraid of change so that can be a reason why people don’t like suggestions because they are scared to try. I would just continue to offer support if they need you your there but not push anything.

Honestly, I have enough to worry about than someone stubborn and stuck in their ways. I give the advice, making sure they understand it’s coming from someone with experience and then tell them I’ll be there to help when they are ready to listen. Then you move on and try not to think about it too hard. You can’t force people to change or do something when they are not ready to do it. It’s frustrating especially if it’s someone you care about, but at least you’ve tried 🤷🏽‍♀️

Are you talking about on here or IRL? At the end of the day how does it affect you? And is there anyone at risk of significant harm? If the answer is it doesn't/no then you just move on and be around if they need you.

I have come to experience that some people just want to be validated where they are at(right or wrong), nothing more, nothing less

And if they don't want to change even though they know better, it is because they are not ready. But venting is a good baby step

Guess it depends on their situation..some people want change but can’t because of their circumstances and some people want change..have opportunities, but refuse to take them because they don’t want to try or don’t like change.

Sometimes people dont want you to fix them, they just want to be validated in how they feel. I've started asking do you just need to vent or do you want my advice? Usually I share a similar experience I went through to show them I understand how they feel. Trying to fix everyone and getting upset when they dont take your unsolicited advice is a great way to lose friends. (That's just my unsolicited advice to you, because I've been there and know how it turns out 😉)

If they didn't ask for your advice, don't give them some... Unsolicited advices are the worse. People most of the time are ranting and want to feel validated.

I remember that I have been in their position. Sometimes I need time after a conversation to download the information before I am receptive to it.

I’ve hit a point in my life where I’ve learned majority will not take advice and humans simply have to learn it on their own. I can share from experience and what they choose to do with that information on their life journey is completely up to them.

@Aurélie it's from people who are looking for advice tho. They don't like it so they just are like anyway....

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