My man never goes to a bar without me. Just not something we did before kids either. ETA: I went out to the bar with my man quite a few times before our son was born, I did as much as I could to enjoy myself. I had him at 29, just a few months before I turned 30 this year. So unlike younger moms, I got my 20s completely to myself and fully understood the freedom I was going to leave behind bringing a kid into the world. I would recommend that you get out and do as much as possible as well
Is he looking forward to being a dad? Both of your time is dwindling for having your own time so maybe he’s just trying to get in alone time before he has to give it up for a while. He ness to find some different activities to include you in if your not going to the bar with him. But enjoy sometime alone as you will be having to divide your time very soon. See how he is as a dad and then in a year or two you will see if he’s a partner you will stay with or not. You have to try and make it work for your baby.
I understand I didn’t choose the most compatible partner my self but he loves his son and wants to be a present dad.
Your feelings are valid. I completely understand also.