Grandparents not allowed to take toddler potty😫

It seems to me like your husband has some deep, unresolved trauma that he’s trying to project onto you and your son by feigning “protective” and “boundaries”. That’s a very outlandish request to make, and it doesn’t seem like a boundary at all. It seems like pure alienation. If you have deemed and confirmed the grandparents of your child to be trustworthy and safe people, why wouldn’t he want the stress that comes with potty training to be relieved by someone who has had experience in teaching so? If he hasn’t confirmed this boundary with his own parents and family, then he’s alienating yours specifically. I’ve unfortunately been that kind of partner in the past, so you need to make absolutely sure and gather all the receipts to confirm that it’s just an outlandish boundary and not some ruse to alienate your family from your son’s milestones.

So what happens if your son stays over at her house. She has to leave him in the bath by himself? She can’t help him go to the bathroom if he needs it? To me it sounds like your husband has some unresolved issues going on

Yes, I agree honestly. Idk what to do tho. Should I just lie about the fact that my parents helped me with my son when I visited them? My husband is stubborn as fuck and will not budge. It’s enraging me

As of now I’m just the one taking him potty etc but this visit has been so stressful because I always have to be available and I’m so pissed at my husband I want to just tell my mom to go ahead and take my son and I’ll just lie to my husband that she didn’t buy obviously I can’t do that

If he goes ballistic, you need to stay with your mom indefinitely. Something is not right. If he’s asking about it right off that’s super sketchy. I hope you guys are safe, no matter what you do

So you don’t plan on ever leaving him with someone else for even 2 hours? You need to tell your husband that it has to be people you fully trust- and have a conversation with your son about what is appropriate v inappropriate. Definitely sounds like your husband has childhood trauma he’s never talked about. It’s not wrong to be protective of his son, but he has to be realistic about it. I don’t think you should lie to him- I think you should tell him that it’s a big parenting difference and that you both need to compromise a little. Ask him why he feels so strongly about this and why he doesn’t trust certain people. Also- if he refuses to budge- teach your son to go to the bathroom by himself. I bought a toddler potty with stairs connected for my girls and it’s been a game changer! They can climb up by themselves, they know to flush, and then there’s a step stool by the sink so they can wash their hands.