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I totally agree. I think it’s grossly irresponsible to advise that when you’ve only heard one side of a story unless it’s a physical danger to you or your children. I think ppl think they are providing support but it’s a very easy response to say leave. I also feel some of the feelings come from their own hell they live in
i’ve left a toxic relationship when my baby was 2 months old. i literally went up and left, left all my stuff behind. went somewhere and got a job. now i was able to support me and my baby bought a car and eveything. yes it’s tough but it’s not impossible.
Umm, do you have advice for someone in an abusive relationship besides leave? The research is pretty clear someone who's physically harming you or your child will not one day just change their ways. What they will do is an abuse cycle of hitting then being apologetic and saying they won't do it again until they do it again. We all know it can be extremely hard to start again, but the people asking on here are not just regular folks with small problems. If you have friends and support you likely don't need to ask strangers on the internet for their opinions. Probably they are in a situation where the man has cut them off from their family and friends which means they don't have a lot of options. Even if they can't leave now hearing from someone else that they should might help them consider a reality outside the one they are in. Maybe you do need to stay for now but start keeping notes, saving money away, maybe you and your baby will get free sometime.
Most woman have to pack up and start a whole new life. While the men keep the house and don’t have to worry about a job because they get paid well. It’s ridiculous and that’s why most women stay is for financial reasons which is sad.
I personally always comment about how a woman will leave when she’s ready, that it’s not always easy to “just leave” when you 1. Love someone 2. Have kids together 3. Aren’t financially stable/would have no where to stay etc etc I hate the “just leave him” comments, the only time they’re justified in my opinion is if abuse or constant cheating/lying is involved…
It’s one of the hardest things to leave. My daughters father is a narcissist and I couldn’t “just leave” he’d get me to stay, while manipulating and isolating and literally coercively controlling my world. I’d break up n go right back. I finally decided to leave and he choked me while j was holding my child. So my response is yes leave…but I know a person won’t until their ready. Just hope it’s not too late. You never know what anyone else is going through
I see your point. It's really sad tho isn't it. It's so hard in the world anymore to make it on your own without a partner. Monthly expenses and children expenses.. life stuff, transportation, groceries. It's a lot. You almost need someone in some situations... So I get it. It's just like so damaging mentally to stay with these shit men tho 🤷♀️ and if a girl can actually get out, on her own, with help from govt., or family, ect. Then she definitely should. I mean IF it's an option Men these days are fucked and a lot are not doing right by women at all. So it all really depends on the big picture. Every situation is different. But yea. If possible, leave his ass! It is hard. Coming from years of abuse myself and feeling like I couldn't find an out twice before. I know it is. Make plans tho. Step by step. Do what you gotta do. And 100% leave, if you can. Because damn these dudes are lamee