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Struggling with this transition
I am so struggling with the transition of my baby girl being born. My son was born 10/25/23 and daughter 8/19/24. I already feel like I wasn’t the best mom I could be or want to be because I was pregnant for basically my sons whole life til now and now that my daughters here I’m overwhelmed with love for both of them but I feel like I still can’t give him all the love I want to because my daughter needs me too. I just feel so bad
I’m also trying to breast feed my daughter which didn’t work out with my son. I pumped and bottle fed him for 2 months and then switched to formula because he just wasn’t getting a good latch. My daughter is already latching way better and I feel so guilty that I wasn’t able to do that for my son.
I’m just 😭😭😭
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you can always reach out if you need to speak to someone when you feel overwhelmed. we alll need each other but i believe things will get better. the first couple months are just ridiculous lol but things will fall into place i promise 🩷
So my babies are going to be 10 months and tbh I’m nervous and I just hear so much risk with carrying back to back but I’m actually excited tbh how was carrying your second ?
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you're doing great mama! mine are 11 months apart and i remember feeling sooooo guilty that i couldnt even carry my daughter at some points in the third trimester and she was going through all her growths and milestones but felt i wasnt 100% involved in that because I was so tired. and ofc with a newborn in the picture it was so overwhelming. there's days where it feels impossible to give my attention to both kids, and my husband and stilllll need to get everything else done and tend to the relationships I have outside of home. now my infant is 4months and her sister is 15 months. what helped a lotttt is having a schedule but still giving myself some grace and dont forget to ask for help when needed even if its from partner. as moms we see and think of everything that needs to be done without being told but others dont always view it like that unfortunately. they're now sleeping at night at the same time which makes a hugeeee difference! a good 8-11 or even 12 hour stretch sometimes.