At what age do you start disciplining your child?

2 and we do timeouts as well as other forms of discipline

18 months. Started timeouts at 2. And other forms of discipline when needed. But we also try to do things gently. Like using redirect and things like that before time out.

Thank you guys, can you share any ideas on other forms of discipline that seem to work?

I'm not going to disclose other forms of discipline I use on my kids because your post will get stirred with drama. And I'm not about drama today. Got enough going on. My advice is to try redirecting. And if that doesn't work, try timeout. I do a minute per age.

Natural consequences and redirection from 1+. Loss of privileges 5+ we also do time ins and time out, discussions, etc. The only thing we don't do is corporal punishment as it's been found to not work on neurodivergent kiddos of which our whole family is some flavor of neurospicy

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When my 17 month old throws his snacks on the floor, empties his whole toy box (purposely out of spite😂) he cleans it up all though I do help him since he is still young he knows at this point if he makes a mess he is to clean it and I will keep redirected him until he starts helping. NOW when it comes to him hitting us when he’s mad or continuously walking towards the road(when he plays outside) I’m not scared to say we don’t really do gentle parenting around here (come at me) we will tell him no 2 times and if he continues he will get popped on the butt which has proven to work for us because than he will go awhile having gentle hands and listening.

I think my 15 month old is better at tidying up than my almost 4 year old 🙄🙈 but different challenges at different ages I guess. I have found a ‘time in’ rather than a ‘time out’ much more effective. Usually my girls need some help to calm down (we sometimes say they’re ’borrowing my calm’) and need a bit of a chat and some attention. I try to focus on the cause of the behaviour rather than the behaviour itself, though being an 80s baby myself and absolutely not having been parented that way myself - it is not easy! Plus I am easily triggered 🙈 trying my best to break the cycle though

2! Time outs in their room corresponding with their current age. We have a cute timer that is loud and visually shows how much longer time out is. We do apologies afterwards too. We also do reward charts for doing kind things, having gentle hands (my toddler had mean hands) and listening. On Fridays we go through the treasure chest and trade in our starts for candy/toys. For my older child the rewards are things they suggest. My son wants a Starbucks gift card, so after so many starts he will get a $15 gift card.

I personally don’t like time outs or hitting but that’s my philosophy, I am all about natural consequences and teaching. There’s no such thing as a naughty child. As soon as my daughter threw things I’d teach her to pick up or clean up. It started with giving her cloth (example) to wipe spill and teaching her. Now at 3, she knows where the cloths are and I ask her to go get one to clean up. Anything like hitting I’ve told her it hurts, if she does that to me or anyone they are going to be sad won’t want to play with her etc… because fundamentally it’s true. X

If they clean it up and stop throwing, they can try again. If they keep throwing the crayons go bye bye.

14/18m. It’s not about discipline. It’s about cleaning up this project/activity before we move onto the next one

@Kellie but what do you do when they don't clean up is what I'm saying

@Tonya what do you mean about redirection

I meant to edit my comment and accidentally deleted it 🤦🏻‍♀️ Like if shes hitting, throwing, ripping books, etc. We take that item, and move her onto something else. If shes ripping books, well maybe try coloring in a coloring book or on her chalk board. If shes hitting, well go do something to distract her hands like building with blocks, etc. Basically anything to give her something else to focus on until she forgets about whatever she was doing before.

I would recommend everyone in the comments to please read “The Montessori toddler” there is an entire chapter of proper discipline

I have always done so… but when she was younger it was more in a education way, no we don’t throw things (sure she didn’t understand, but I was consistent)

I think time outs should start at an early age. And cleaning up maybe should start at 2 year old.

Does anyone remember sitting in time out as a child? I do. I remember always thinking “you’re not listening to me!” and being so frustrated. I also thought whoever had put me in time out was an idiot. If I was really angry I’d try to plot some kind of revenge 🙈😂 I also knew I’d have to apologise to come out - but that I wasn’t sorry at all and just thought they were a moron. This is why I don’t use time outs with my kids. Plus all of the research which backs up my personal experience

@Joanna omg same! i don’t do time outs for my kids because i remember being in time out and thinking “wow it’s that easy? i can do whatever i want and then just sit by myself?” haha

i think discipline is supposed to benefit both child and the parent. so for me i use a lot of communication and teaching rather than time outs or making them do a chore etc. from the moment our kids could play with toys (like a few months) my husband immediately got them into the habit of cleaning up right away. like he would grab their baby hands to pick it up and put it away lol. habits start really early !! by the time they were able to walk or around a year old they knew to clean up/put toys away when they’re done playing or wanted to play with something else