Could you have a friendship outside of the kids? Maybe meet up once a week at night and leave the kids at home with a partner, family member or babysitter?
When looking new mom friends , their parenting definitely plays part in whether I feel we are compatible & going to work as friends. Not parenting , and allowing your child to do whatever , will cause me to end a friendship quick . Kids pick up on things.
I have this same issue but it’s with a sibling who comes on a one month on one month off basis. I have just been working on awarding good behavior and doing time out for bad behavior. But still struggling :(
I think I’ll have to cut out the friendship will make up excuses hopefully she will understand. Its so hard at times to decide whats right thing to do morally and then as a parent.
When it comes to other people’s parenting I take that very seriously and what I mean by that is I will step in as soon as my daughter starts behaving the same way. For example at my daughter’s ballet class last week they had these egg shakers and two older kids started throwing them all around the room while their parents sat there and laughed. Not only was it dangerous but it was very inappropriate for kids that age. As soon as my daughter watched and started to copy I got up got down to her level and told her “I understand this seems like fun but it’s very dangerous and we do not throw these around if you do it again I will have to put it away” she nodded her head and did not do it again I noticed she did try but hesitated and stopped right when she was about to again. Just be aware of these things and make sure to explain these things in the moment not just at home because you fear of the other persons reaction or what they might say.
@Monica thanks for the advise 💕💕🥰😊👍🏻
@Asma If she is a friend I wouldn’t make up excuses. I would just be honest in a kind way. Tell her you’ve noticed your son is exhibiting some challenging behaviors and you are working to get that under control and holding off on play dates right now. If you’re close talk to her about her parenting. Some people are just clueless
I think an important question is: what is she doing about it? Cause my son will do these kinds of things and we put him in timeout and discipline we talk about being kind, etc. He's just in a hard stage. My friend had a daughter that was.... atrocious. She would slam my son's head in a door when he was a crawling baby, pinched him as a tiny baby, bit him and left a huge bruise as a young toddler etc etc., but they hardly did anything. I would've cared less if they were disciplining her.
You are not responsible for other people's emotions but you are responsible for your sons if it's negatively impacting your son you should probably distance yourself iv personally had to do this before when my son was about this age