Take it steady, lots of lube and make sure you feel ready and in the mood. I had an episiotomy with my first and my stitches burst so it took a good 12 weeks to heal so I know how you feel x
I had a 2nd degree tear, episiotomy and a cervical with my first. So I know how you feel. Take it easy, try when you're relaxed, use lube and don't expect much as first few times it probably won't be enjoyable.
Have a few glasses of wine and take it slow, remind yourself if it’s sore there’s no pressure to carry on!