Autism child

I would love to help you out I have a boy with autism is she in counseling or anything?

Have you tried ABA therapy? It’s covered by most insurance, if you don’t have insurance the regional center will usually provide it for free. I have 3 autistic boys and it has changed our lives. It’s not easy but it works wonders.

Hey love I have a boy and I’m going through the same thing practice gentle hands. Make her hold her hands together when she’s acting like that.

At this age it is harder. My oldest didn't talk til she was five. She hit she kicked she bit she did everything. The meltdowns are sometimes the worst of it. All one can really do is take a breather. Keep on explaining in simple terms and why it's inappropriate. Sometimes have to just take them to a safe place and let them yell it out. My oldest i needed to do that. She is 13 now and we still sometimes have screaming, yelling throwing things days. I myself am an aba therapist as well. There are services available through insurance. Behavior therapies, social skills help. Ot, pt and speech therapies its so much to worry about but once you get hang of it, it's like second nature.

And have her sit down and hold her hands together to relax her nervous system

Hi Abigail our son is autistic . Do you see any specialists / psychologists regularly ? We had LJ in a school for children with autism where he went 4 days a week for therapy and help learning . I would touch base with your pediatrician and also explain that you need more support and if there’s any groups local in your area where your child can meet others and you can mingle with other parents to get support as well . You got this momma you’re doing an amazing job . I hope this helps .

Hi I’m an RBT ( BCBA in training) and Autism mom and wife. ABA therapy sounds like the best option. The older she gets the harder it will be for her to learn how to calm herself down and certain behavioral skills. A one on one person will HELP! I promise you her simply having someone with her to observe allll of the little things will help a lot and you’ll have support from the BCBA.

Speak with your pediatrician about getting a diagnosis (if you haven’t already), and advocate for services - mainly speech and occupational therapy. There are services in the greater Houston area - autism pediatric therapy and learning center, growing speech, etc. - that can help your daughter regulate her emotions and learn to communicate and stim more effectively. Some people believe ABA is an appropriate therapy. Many parents and providers are moving away from ABA therapy - do research on what might work best for your daughter. If she has Autism with add, adhd, etc. it might be more helpful to modify her stimming behavior and lean into it. The traditional form of “discipline” that we learned as children will (almost) never be effective. I get wanting to do it, it feels instinctual. But it doesn’t work. Stay strong, momma. You can do this.

With my autistic 5 year old son I start asking him questions. Questions that I would ask him is what color is your shirt? Where’s your nose,eyes,ears,etc? I will also ask him if he can go find me a dinosaurs that’s blue,green,etc? I give him tasks to focus on more than what he’s upset about. We also went the route of hitting a pillow to get the angries out and it has worked wonders! Most of the time it’s just him being overstimulated but these few things have helped with his meltdowns too! His school even started doing some of these things to help him feel more calm in school and get those feelings out.

Definitely not ABA. I would look at his diet first ( remove all dyes , dairy and gluten ) this can significantly decrease tantrums .

Pay attention to the language the ABA professionals use—compliance and result-driven language is highly problematic. I’ve left programs that weaponized connection to get results before. Their methods are unethical with long-term issues. Former program attendees are speaking out in increasing numbers and frequency about the inherent problems of ABA. It causes trauma and doesn’t address the actual concerns of the enrollees. They should be given tools for adapting to their environment while advocating for their needs instead of being taught to ignore their bodily autonomy. This is abhorrent.  https://www.altteaching.org/update-us-government-reports-aba-doesnt-work/?mibextid=Zxz2cZ https://neuroclastic.com/what-is-aba-and-does-it-work/ https://therapistndc.org/aba-is-not-effective-so-says-the-latest-report-from-the-department-of-defense/ https://themighty.com/topic/autism-spectrum-disorder/aba-harms-autistic-people/?mibextid=Zxz2cZ#Echobox=1627284494

Join a group like Autism Inclusivity on Facebook which is a network of autistic adults you can learn from directly. Please listen to autistic people as opposed to allistic parents. You’ll get a lot of problematic advice from non-autistic parents asking in a space like this that is geared towards training a child to act neurotypical, which will cause more problems in the future. Your child sounds extremely disregulated and like there’s a lot of unmet sensory needs.

My daughter has autism and the hardest thing to do that benefits her the most is diet. Remove any dyes, sugar, chemicals, fluoride, gluten and dairy from her if you haven't already. Their gut health is very tied to their behavior. It's hard they are picky eaters but start eliminating bad things from her diet if you haven't. Sugar and dairy and dye big enemy! Add juicing pre and probiotics and supplements made from the whole of a food not synthetic supplements. The doctors only test usually for lead but you can request to get tested for Cadmium, Mercury, Arsenic and other common heavy metals.

@Lilly see, no. This is not good advice (holding hands together). Never restrict stimming. Redirect unsafe behavior and provide another outlet.

@Kelly no she’s on a waitlist

Not professional advice, but what’s worked for me in the past when I use to care for young children on the spectrum: Turn off all other sounds and lights if possible, stand behind them, cross their arms in front of their chest and hug. A lot of tantrums like that seem to stem from overstimulation and/or being low on endorphins.

My son is 5 and we've been working on time outs more. I have him sit by a wall with nothing to interact with (toys, tv, etc..) I will not talk to him unless it is to tell him that he needs to be sitting down since he is in time out. I put my phone where he can see it and set a 3-5 minute timer so he can visibly see it going down. When the timer (my phone) goes off, he shuts the alarm off and hands me it. I know visuals are easier for many. There's also a stoplight you can buy that has green, yellow, and red. When they're doing an activity or timeout you set it to green. When the activity is going to be over soon you out it to yellow to tell them it's almost over. Then you put it to red when the activity is over. So it's not so unexpected for them.

My tot is also ASD. Whenever we encounter a tantrum surfacing, we would do a breathing session.Deep inhale and slow exhales. 🫶 Youtube has breathing videos for tots! Hope this helps 🤞