Unhappy 🙁
I am starting to feel unhappy in my marriage and I don’t know what to do. I feel like he sees me in such a negative way and seems to always assume the worst from me in situations. Like I am out to do things to hurt him. We don’t share much affection anymore. And sometimes things like daily tasks feel like a competition. 🤷🏼♀️ I don’t know what to do. I feel like therapy could be an option but I don’t feel like I can freely say what I want in front of him.
My husband and I struggled a lot after our first was born. We both come from different backgrounds and struggle to this day with our communication so I completely relate to feeling like you can’t freely say what you want. Therapy isn’t always the answer- but I feel it’s a great place to start if you’re both willing. It was a positive experience for us in the time of need, and once we could hear each other out (which having a mediator for sure helped), we chose to go to church. Not sure if that’s your style or if you’re religious, but I love to share this sermon that we walked into the first time we went (to preface, my husband wasn’t religious at all)- “if you’re child upsets you or disappoints you- you don’t leave them and give up because it’s a sacred relationship, same goes for your marriage!” This hit home because it’s so easy to think about leaving instead of working on it but marriage is hard after kids and as long as you both want to grow- I bet you can if you both want to!