I find the word no triggers her so I try to avoid it and just divert and distract her 😅
IGNORE IT! I’m tired 😩😂 seems to be working though.
I've started offering a cuddle and when she refuses and wants to have a longer tantrum, I give her a bit of time but stay really close by without looking at her, maybe play with one of her toys or something. After a pause when she's watching you, offer her the hug again, and she may come to hug/play, otherwise, repeat this method by carrying on having a great time without her and enticing her to join in whilst regularly reminding her you'd like to have a cuddle and play. I've also started saying OK, are we ready now? No more tears and grumpyness? And she's started grudgingly agreeing and switching off the screech-mode and coming in for a hug. But I don't do the hug until the screech-mode is off because I'm not trying to burst my eardrums.
I just try to reserve the word no for serious situations really, when I do say it she screams and cries inconsolably but it works and the word doesn’t go over her head and i’d like to keep it that way! Distraction & redirection is key at this age and I do my best to make sure her environment is safe so I don’t have to say no x