FTM labor fears- midwife vs MD
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I will personally ONLY choose midwives. When I had a doctor I hemorrhaged and they ripped my sons umbilical cord. Not to mention they shut me down, and push me out of the office essentially. With my midwives they’ve always kind, answer my questions, take as long as I need… midwives for me always…
I was in the exact same situation as you, very low risk, was introduced to the midwife (totally fine!!) and then things took a turn and when I was 5cm i had met the OB MD and within 2 minutes I was in the OR with the MD getting an emergency c section. There has to be an MD there usually that’s available that they are in contact with frequently. Trust your medical team, they do this day in and day out!
Where are you delivering? If you're in a hospital, there will be other doctors there even if your usual OB is on call. I didn't see my regular doc until the next day with my first, but 2 other docs from the practice during labor & delivery. My second was a scheduled induction (11 days past due) so it was much faster and she was there.
@Audrey it will be in a hospital! I expressed my concern with one of the nurse practitioners at my practice during my 12 weeks apt, and she said basically what you’re saying! The Dr on call will be kept informed and if something got serious, they will be there! Part of me just wishes the Dr can be in the room ready to jump in at a moments notice, but i know that defeats the purpose of having the midwife handle it all. 😅
@Kelly thank you for your story! It’s actually very reassuring 🤞
@Madeline ah, I see. If it makes you feel any better, nurses do a lot of the work and are great at anticipating if things are looking at all off. There's a lot of little things they do before the doctor is really needed, so there won't be any big delay. No one will be sitting around waiting on the doctor to show up!
@Audrey that does make me feel better! Thank you! 🤗
@Audrey yeah I was actually surprised how the nurse is the one who does most of the delivery with you. The doctor comes in for the last tiny bit when the baby is about to come out. But yeah they are definitely kept very informed the whole time.
@Kara my husband is a nurse, so I hear about it a lot 😆 His biggest gripe about medical shows is all the stuff they show doctors doing, he's like "they would never do that." He was confused when they said the OB would be doing an in-room ultrasound at our first appt; tbf I was too, that wasn't a thing at my previous doctor's office, or something I had heard of them doing.
@Audrey lol yeah my aunt and uncle are a nurse as well and when people are like well we want the doctor to do xyz instead of them they are like you really don’t want them to do that 😂
I think Midwives are much better, they are present and more hands on. If you deliver with an OB a nurse will do most of the work and an OB will mainly just step in at tougher situations. But the midwife will coach you through pushing, will give suggestions, will help change positions etc
In the UK it's normal for a midwife to deliver your baby. I became high risk from low risk on my due date because my backwaters leaked. I had two midwifes look after me until I required an emergency c section. I met my surgeon for 5 minutes before they scrubbed up and off I went with the midwife as she handed over as it was hand over she left or she would have stayed till baby was born (she came and visited me the next night to check I was okay)