Am I asking my fiancé for too much?
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That’s ridiculous. Are they also his kids? He can set aside one hour BARE MINIMUM to watch his children. I’d be furious with my husband if he thought he wasn’t equally as responsible for our kids as I am
Can you take them with you? I’m guessing they’re too young to be in school yet so they wouldn’t be a bother. I take the four of mine to appointments with me as I haven’t got anyone to look after them.
That would be a cancellation of our engagement not my appointment 🤦🏾♀️
If you need to cancel have him pay the cancellation fee. No not asking for too much at all.
He’s a bitch
You’re the mum and he doesn’t have time. WOW, JUST WOW. Who would even say that. And asking him to watch the kids they are his kids there’s no asking just do it. And he can prepare on Wednesday.
He could study while they watch miss Rachel or play and just be there to supervise even if the studying and prepping was urgently important (it’s not because there’s still Wednesday) (he sucks)
@Nika DEADASS BROTHER
Wow, just wow, that's all I have to say And you have multiple kids with this guy why?
@Laura Byrne she shouldn't have to take them with her, she has a partner who's clearly available
What does he need a whole hour to study for a job interview for? He could study tonight or before the appointment.
Not exactly like your going for a spa day. Its your health. Your taking one for the team. He can study later wtf
You shouldn't have to ask for bare minimum.
Wait, is he just the step-dad? That would make a little more sense. If he is the bio-dad, I agree that would be a cancelled engagement, not appointment. You wouldn’t want to marry someone who doesn’t want your children.
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@Paige if he lives with the kids in his daily life, and their engaged, bio dad or not those kids should be a priority in his life.
@Parker 又 I agree! I just know some men don’t treat step kids & bio kids the same unfortunately
I'm sorry that you have a man child. This is not the 1950s. He had parental responsibilities and needs to step up and be a father. He honestly doesn't deserve you.
Wow, it’s almost as if your health is not important nor are you as a person. I wonder if he would make an exception for hospital treatment either, or are you expected to just die? Who would look after the kids then.
@Paige he’s their bio dad
Girl, you sound like a single parent already. I say get out while you can, get child support and find a man who loves you and your children to put your health and family needs FIRST.
HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHCALL OFF THE ENGAGEMENT PUT HIM ON CHILD SUPPORT SINCE HES JUST A PIGGY BANK ANYWAYS
So his their bio dad and refusing to look after them because you're the mum. Girl get out more often and leave them with him . His just as much responsibility for those kids as you are.
Not to be rude but he sounds pretty shit tbh
That’s insane. He must’ve lost his damn mind. Your responsibility? He forgot he was a parent?
Your responsibility?????? How are you still with him
I would physically assault my husband if he said something like that to me. “You’re the mom” that’s pitiful. How disrespectful, you deserve better.
Ew my husband quite literally rarely spends time with our baby but still always takes off work if I have appts or anything I need to take care of
My husband put stuff in his phone calendar, and take baby to appointments, if I don’t feel like going, he even watch the baby in the morning after his night shift, so I can get some rest. He even don’t let me carry the car seat at all. That’s should a dad treat his baby momma and his life partner.
Honestly though we don’t know the situation. Maybe the interview is stressing him out and he needs to cram for it. I know it’s only an appointment but it’s actually the time before it, time after it and the disruption it causes. That’s why I take the kids with me to appointments because it’s just easier than messing up someone else’s day with three one year olds and a grumpy pre teen. 100% if I had to go somewhere with no exact time frame they would come and my husband wouldn’t look after them. He’s taken one being left home whilst I pop to the shops but not all of them. Plus they’re my kids. My responsibility and my job to plan around them. I desperately need to see a dentist but haven’t got the time till they’re at least another year or two older and I can go whilst they’re at school.
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@Laura Byrne did you not read the part where he said the kids are her responsibility because she's the mum 🤔 they're his responsibility too he's the father
@Becky I did. But I also live in a world where I’m the mum and so the kids are my responsibility. As primary caregiver it’s my job to do: medicines, nights, feeding, nappies, dressing, shopping, cleaning, appointments, parties, extra curricular activities, night feeds and wakings, discipline, organisation. If it’s house or kid related it’s my responsibility
@Laura Byrne, you have 4 children and 11 month old triplets, and your partner does nothing to take care of them from what you've explained above. Sorry, but I just think that's discusting
@Laura Byrne that’s disgusting. so your husband isn’t the father, doesn’t pay the bills, live in the same home, or eats in your home? since you’re the primary caregiver and the kids are just your responsibility? no man is worth that trouble and would’ve gotten his ass kicked by me and tossed aside. marriage and parenthood is a partnership. not master and slave. not being able to go to the dentist for two years just because he won’t care for the kids for a few hours maximum is so pathetic i don’t think i can even call that a man or even a capable human
@Becky no I have four children total. Three one ish year olds and a nine year old. They’re a lot of work. No one except for me has ever had all four at once. But I’m their mum so it’s my job. When they’re older then people will be more willing to help. Right now though what if they need feeding? What if they wake up
@Laura Byrne what about the father? Isn't he in the picture?
@Becky my husband works.
@Laura Byrne sounds like he works 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. It a shame you don't have a husband that doesn't do his part as a father to his children, but if you're happy 🙄
@Becky he has to sleep, has to have downtime. The whole responsibility of keeping a roof over our heads is his and that’s a hell of a lot more than looking after kids.
@Laura Byrne like I say if you're happy to live your life like that then good for you hun
You should call off that engagement, he doesn’t view himself as responsible for your children, he doesn’t love you.