It's so sad you have to go through this, ur partner is the link between you all, and he needs to step up and protect all parties involved, which includes you and ur mental health. There's always the excuse that they are kids, and they forget women have to deal with hormonal issues, menstrual issues, etc. I'll advise u be there for her to the extent she allows, have your space where u can retreat to and protect your mental health, ur partner has to step up and bridge the gap, when u retreat and he has to let her know it's mean to talk to someone who cares for you in that manner. Kids have to be taught continuously right from wrong whether they take it or not. How does he feel when he hears his kid talking to you that way? You may need to get therapy to deal with whatever she is going through. But it's not acceptable for you to be at the receiving end, and all parties are watching in silence, and no one is correcting her. I wish you good luck
@Ash thank you for the advice … yes he corrects her and tells her to respect me but She doesn’t respect him because he has never set boundaries before and I feel now its too late .. I am definitely seeking therapy and retreating to my own space because Its a very uncomfortable to see everyone just silently staring and doing nothing .. thanks again
It's definitely not just you. She could physically attack you while pregnant, and she'd still be his child (ask me how I know..). Heck, she could murder you in front of him, and she'd still be his child. 12 to 15yo is a difficult time, especially for teenage girls in relation to their stepmoms. Just take the space you need to feel safe for yourself and your children. Even if it's more than your husband wants. Then, take some extra space for good margin, at least until she is through this phase and old enough to control herself. In a few years, she will have moved on, but will you? 🤔 I didn't think so, but now I'm not so sure... I'm keeping myself open to the possibility that we will one day get along as if those years never happened (though never forgetting they did)...