Potty training help! 🚽

My 2yr 8mo old LG refuses to go on the potty or wear “big girl underpants”…she will tell us when she’s going 1 or 2 and asked to be changed immediately after, but whenever I tell her “oh great, you’re doing poopy! Let’s go on the potty!” She says “nooo!” And gets like, legit upset if I try to urge it more. I recently got her some cotton panties that have a little extra something in the crotch area (they’re called training underwear or something) and put them on her yesterday morning and she freaked out and cried to get a diaper back on. I have no idea how a diaper could be more comfortable! She understands that “all big girls use the potty” and tells me that she WILL eventually use it, just “not yet.” Considering she’s going to be 3yrs old in 4 months, just looking for advice or wondering how behind she really is with potty training. Has anyone else dealt with their LO seemingly having a fear or anxiety about the potty? (NOTE: we do have a little toddler sized potty in addition to the smaller opening seat that goes onto the regular toilet and has a stool built in—she doesn’t like either of them). I also have a 19 month old son and he loves his big boy underwear (I got him the same kind that I got my LG but the boy version)! He also likes going on the potty already. He isn’t potty trained per se, but he’s closer than she is and he’s 13 months younger! Help?! Is it normal???

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“Oh crap! Potty training” by Jamie Glowacki was recommended to me and I loved it. She has a recommended time frame that the middle age falls at 24 months but regardless your daughter is her age and you can’t go back. The author mentions much older children struggling so you aren’t too late either, so don’t give up! She is resisting but don’t let her go back to diapers. We did big boy undies even for night time. We didn’t have as much resistance initially but there are times now he doesn’t want to “try” but we just don’t allow him not to. Keep up the good fight. She will adjust soon enough when getting wet/messy becomes a bigger issue for her. Right now the potty is inconvenient, but the accidents will become more inconvenient if you stick with it.

We’ve been “trying” since she was about 24mos, so it’s not like we missed the bus or started too late. We got the little potty and put it in the bathroom next to the regular toilet right before she turned 2, so that she could get used to it. She would sit on it (fully clothed), but whenever she tried to get her to sit with her pants down she would cry and carry on. She’s a really difficult child. Super dramatic. She’ll cry and scream and act like we’re torturing her until we let her get off the potty. 🥵 Totally unlike my son who seems to be more standard/average child. Thanks for the book recommendation though! I’m gonna look it up!

Best of luck! You’ve done it once before, sounds like very different personalities between kids, but you can do it again! I hope the book helps :)

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