What do you all do about your kids cussing?

I clicked the wrong one!! I meant to click leave it be. Obviously depends on child’s age and circumstances etc but I agree. Unless they are calling people names etc then I don’t think it’s a major issue. I grew up around swear words and still didn’t swear in front of my mum until I was early 20s! I think it’s about teaching them to be respectful and to use their language appropriately.

Well we don’t cuss at all so if they did it’s because they heard it from someone else. We will teach and say that is a bad word when they are old enough to understand. As a toddler if we bring light to it then they are just gonna say it more and more. So when they get older we will tell them that it’s a bad word and not nice and if they continue to say it they will get into trouble. And the first couple times it will probably be a reminder of don’t do it.

If it’s used in proper context & not with malicious intent; it’s just another word. The only bad words I can think of would be slurs or words said with malice/intention to be hurtful.

We have the same opinion as you, incog, on swearing.

I’m the same now that they’re teens and my oldest plays football which seems to have taught him some new creative language. I do however reel it in if they’re cursing AT each other or someone, like on video games and such. But if one of my kids stubs their toe and says “oh f?$k!”, I get it! They’re people too and words have the power we give them.

I allow my daughter to swear, but with rules. For instance I myself swear at home and with friends, but I don’t swear at work or around my grandparents for example and I don’t swear at people in an insulting way. I think it’s unrealistic to teach them to never swear, I’d rather they were taught appropriate usage of it. My daughter is allowed to swear at home, but not at school/on the street/at peoples houses. Swear words are a normal part of the majorities vocabulary and they’re expressive. Sometimes only a swear word will do in certain situations! lol She’s now 11 years old and we’ve never had any issues. I know people disagree with it but it has worked for us and we are fine with it.

@Rebecca yes! This is something we are figuring out. Our oldest is preschool ages so we are starting to teach where is ok to use those words, and where it is less ok…like at great grandma’s house 😂😅

My oldest is only 4.5 so this hasn't come up yet for us. We don't swear infront of them. I don't in general. I will definitely be correcting it in my house though as I grew up that way and I think it worked well.

I will never allow my child to swear. It’s not acceptable in our house. My husband and I don’t swear as well. You have to practice what you preach though so if you’re swearing in front of your child then expect them to do it as well. I find it very weird for parents to say they’re ok with this behavior.

@Halah I have a mouth like a sailor. So my three year old says damn it, and s**t, and every now and then there is a f**k in there. She uses them all correctly though 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

I don’t swear at all around my child - and would probably correct him (he’s 3 so too young to even know swear words) - as I don’t like it at all - most ppl I know swear - It gives me the ick but I try not to judge - I’d rather my child didn’t feel the need to swear but notice a lot of ppl, especially these days can’t or don’t want to string a sentence together with effing and blinding lol - it’s awful

@Nina I do swear, so does my husband. A lot…and i don’t think it’s worth my energy to stop my kids from doing it when they hear it daily. We think they are just words, so long as they aren’t be hurled at another person. We feel different about slurs and those are completely disallowed.

Lool, are you not worried about her saying those things in front of strangers? Low-key I would probably burst out laughing because I would be so shocked hearing that out of a 3 year old but I can imagine you would get a lot of negative judgement and when she starts school she could also end up in a-lot of trouble.

@Halah it won’t affect our kids as I will be home schooling them but I can see how that would be an issues before they could be taught appropriate situations. My daughter said “s**t” today when we were at my dr appointment, that’s what promoted me to post. The dr looked at me, waiting for me to correct her but I just smiled and told him to ask his next question.

i cuss a lot but my kids honestly haven’t picked up on it much. my son has said “aaaw fuck!” before when we were in walmart bc i dropped something 😂 i couldn’t even help but to laugh

My daughter is almost 4, I cuss a lot lol and she picks up everything but the rule is that if she cannot understand the meaning of every word she cannot say it. Also, she’s allowed to do it only at home. (Luckily we speak Italian at home and live in the UK so even if she says something at school or wherever they won’t understand it 😂)

@Parker 又 YES! Like my kids will fully say ass but know not to use slurs such as the F word (homophobic) or C word, etc. they know I will come unglued! If I don’t use it at 35, you definitely won’t at 15! But I talk like a sailor, I work with predominantly men (law) and I would feel like a total hypocrite telling them these forms of expression are off the table. Totally agree with you!

@Nika there’s also studies done that show those who curse more actually have better emotional regulation skills cause they don’t block off avenues of communication that could be seen as abrasive.

https://www.healthline.com/health-news/dont-watch-your-mouth-swearing-can-actually-be-good-for-your-health#:~:text=Experts%20say%20using%20curse%20words,that%20we%20have%20no%20control.

My daughter is only 16 months. I do avoid cussing around her, my parents who we live with basically refuse to respect my wishes for the cussing to stop around her. When she's old enough to understand the right and wrong times to cuss she will be allowed to do it. At home, not at school and never toward anyone. There will be consequences for the misuse of this ability.

I’m a teacher so I’m used to not swearing. Unfortunately, we don’t live in a great area and we hear colourful language through our walls. I know my children will be subjected to swearing earlier than I was, I will help them to understand what they are saying and consider when it might be appropriate, but not until they pick up on the language from others and I won’t allow them to use it until they are in their mid teens. They need to know there are times when it is not appropriate and learn to control what comes out of their mouths I.e. at work.

@Parker 又 absolutely! I’ve shown this study to a couple asshats that tried to correct me before on this 🙃 I speak 4 languages, have a voracious vocabulary, and still, sometimes nothing is succinct as a good swear word! I always joke that I like my sentences seasoned 🤣

Not going to lie when they're teeny weenie and they say a bad word it's hilarious to me. Older not so much. Correct it.

My toddlers don't swear in context, only have done a few times. Mostly they just copy me if I swear and it is the last word of my sentence then they copy me, I do a little chuckle and tell them not to say it. However when they get better at talking if it becomes part of their vocabulary, which it probably will😅, at first will be hard but eventually will teach them it can only be done at home

We plan to teach where swearing is acceptable and where you absolutely can't use it. Not towards others, in certain public places, etc. we farm so there's no avoiding it, it just comes out 🤷🏼‍♀️ I call them helping verbs lol

My 13 year old doesn’t cuss. And I know she doesn’t bc she won’t even repeat them when I ask her to repeat something someone said. I made it a point not to cuss around her when she was small. I don’t think it’s cute or funny for kids to cuss. It’s distasteful in my opinion. Now i don’t hold back in front of her if i have to throw an f bomb or whatever but she still won’t use them and actually looks flabbergasted at me 😂 repeating the same with my two little boys.

I swear...a lot lol and so does my husband. We are going to teach our kids time and place for cussing. They're going to hear it in the real world might as well teach them the proper way to use it.

@Lara 🙌🏻 swearing