Am I the only mum whose partner sleeps in the spare room/doesn't help with night feeds during the working week?

My partner started a new job after paternity that needs him to be on top form in the working week so we agreed that he would sleep in the spare room Sunday to Thursday, then Friday and Saturday nights, I have the opportunity to sleep in the spare room and get 2 full nights sleep. Just looking to see if I'm the only one whose partner does this. I get he needs to be on top form but it naturally makes you feel unsupported/a bit resentful.
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I do all night wakings because I breastfeed :)

My husband doesnt sleep in another room but he has never helped in the nights, he is such a heavy sleeper he doesnt even know if one of the kids wakes up anyway 😂 Plus i like night feeds with mine 🥰 xx

I do all night wakings but my partner sleeps in bedroom with us.

I’d love 2 full nights sleep

But I feel like it’s fair

I think this is fair enough, as long as you get your 2 full night's sleep every week. My partner does Friday nights to allow me to catch up (I sleep in another room) sometimes another night if it's been a particularly bad week!

My husband used to sleep in other room when we had our 3rd, this time with 4th baby we sleep together. He never helped with night feeds only if I've been out and he is the only one to feed 😁

Exact same set up here xxx

We have the same set up x

I do all the wakes with baby because we’re breastfeeding. My partner will sleep in the bed with me though, he also tends to go in with my toddler if she wakes up!

My partner has been in the spare room since maybe 2 weeks postpartum. However, it wored better for us and he then got a good night sleep and had the energy to be a bit more helpful in the day. However, once back to work just means he isn't too tired really as then he's out at work anyways so not helpful 😂

I also breastfeed so he can't really be that much of a help anyway so seems pointless us both being disturbed

Chose second option, I’m a second time mum and ebf. My husband sleeps in spare room because his work is insanely busy, altho he wfh twice a week. Some nights I have to ask his help specially toddler related or if second born wakes up too much. Other than, I do the night duty more as of now in compared to first time. However, he helps during day and bed time duty… my poor husband is very light sleeper as it is.

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