Sex during pregnancy and after?

Hi ladies, I’m 28 weeks pregnant. For two weeks we haven’t had sex with my husband as in the last 3 weeks my belly really popped up and baby started to kick. I actually want him, but when I tried last week to make a move he told me he wants to sleep. Since then I am deeply in thoughts as he leaves early to work and comes late, after the dinner goes directly to the bed but I’m not asleep yet and don’t want to go so early. I don’t know if I should this week too and see how the situation is going. There are also days when I feel exhausted but I never complain about how I feel. Before we made it one or twice a week, but now it feels different and frustrating. Should I ask him if he doesn’t find me attractive anymore? I don’t want to continue this way next 3 months 😭 it feels very sad. Also when after the birth it is possible to have intimacy again? Please share your experience and what would you suggest.

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Have a conversation about how you feel. Some men just worry about sex with their pregnant partner incase they hurt them, worry about the baby etc. he might just need some reassurance

My other half was the exact same! Lol soo fustrating! Men defo do worry about it though so defo have a chat with him. I was on drs orders not to be intimate but sometimes ya just got to lol it defo drove me insain. Xx

Talk to him! I doubt it's what you think it is. Funnily enough, it was me who felt weird about having sex when I got big not my fiance 😅

When I had my first son I was too tired to do it and pretty much only did it towards the end to entice the baby out 😂😂 I can’t lie. Doggy has always been the easiest position when pregnant and having sex. That way you can protect the baby with a pillow under your bump and I find it less uncomfortable. With regards to sex after birth, it’s different for everyone. I’d suggest not going off what everyone else does and do what feels right for you. We tried after 8 weeks and I still wasn’t properly healed and it hurt so we stopped (not loads of pain just uncomfortable so don’t panic) but I had stitches following a forcep delivery. We ended up being very comfortably sexually active after 11 weeks. Takes some women sooner. I took a while. Do what feels right for you.

I think in most cases where this happens men are just worried about hurting you or the baby and it is not because they aren’t attracted to you at all. My partner is very much attracted to me when I’m pregnant but he completely backs off because he knows I am uncomfortable and sex isn’t as enjoyable for me. Have a conversation with your partner if you are worrying about it, that way you can clear the air and make sure you are both on the same page. After birth there’s a risk of infection for the first 6 weeks so generally it’s advised against during this time. But depending on how birth goes etc you may not feel ready at this point.

It's more than safe to have sex during pregnancy! After you have to wait 6 weeks or longer depending on your bleeding and healing process.

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