They say motherhood changes you - has it?

For me, I've not really changed. Other than my body (c section and breastfeeding, I know I'll never be the same), the first thing that struck me that had changed about me was my sense of being safe in the world. Suddenly I was hyper aware that there was a living, breathing achilles heal of mine in the world and the anxiety I felt at that was enormous. I tried to pretend it wasn't. The scenarios I imagine regularly of harms that could befall my son endlessly play in my head. I know I will never feel completely safe emotionally again for as long as I live. Other than all of that, yes, I'm more motherly, tender, and everything in me is hormonally geared to taking care of this child to the point my brain cannot retain any other information. I've lost alot of freedoms. I wouldn't choose to not have him now he's here, but I wouldn't push the choice of parenthood onto anyone the way some people have done to me in the past. It's really not for the faint of heart. My partner is wonderful and can't do enough but I miss him often because we aren't fully with each other the way we were before our baby. I can't focus on my other family members the way I want to either. How has motherhood changed you? Your relationships?
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Completely changed me, I no longer surround myself with people that have bad intentions or aren’t real friends. I would never put myself in the position of getting in trouble with the law ever again either. I prefer to stay indoors with my son than be outside. I am a completely different person x

Yes I’d say it’s changed me. We had been trying to start a family for over Four years until we had IVF and eventually had our baby. I do think I hugely underestimated the sense of responsibility- I know that sounds daft but things like ensuring I can always find a way to get her to safety should it be needed and not having that extra glass of wine in a night type thing. My husband has really struggled to bond and I maybe underestimated that too. X

I saw a saying about motherhood and it was something like, to forever have your heart now walking around outside of your chest, and I couldn't agree more 🤣 the anxiety is next level.

Completely changed my whole outlook on life, priorities and people/friends/ family x All for the better x My heart could burst x she was the missing piece I never knew I needed in my life x

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