Would it be wrong to do things without husband ?
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I say do it. NTAH.
Does your step daughters mum not take her places because your child is not there? No, so why should your child miss out?
@Angel she does ! But everyone make it seem like I’m being mean and selfish for not waiting for step daughter . But guess what step daughter has already gotten to go to holidays at Disney when she was little ! She got to experience that multiple times . I want to take my daughter while the magic is still there but everyone keeps telling me that it’s unfair if I try to go without step daughter because she’ll feel left out. I understand to some extent but I can’t keep waiting to do things in their schedule . My husband doesn’t agree with me at all so now I’m just like ok I tried to compromise so if he doesn’t want to go he can stay home but to rob me and our daughter of that experience is completely wrong in my opinion.
i’ve had this convo with my husband & had to tell him our lives still go on, they aren’t put on pause & while i sympathize that he has to split time with my bonus son our other children are here FT & need FT parents. their childhood matters just as much. i also try to plan things around my bonus sons schedule if it works then great if not then ill plan another trip when he’s with us! but you’re not the problem, maybe you can try telling him how it affects all of the kids having to keep putting off plans for just one
This must feel frustrating for you, if he really wants to include step daughter, then such holidays are usually planned 6months -1year ahead, so inform the BM, if she says no, then u plan for ur daughter alone, if she says it's ok, then ur SD is included. I hate when a simple matter becomes so complicated. Life must go on for your child, she deserves her childhood memories as well without it being determined by her Ss. If ur hubby does not understand this, then go without him
@Ash it’s really hard because then I feel like a horrible spouse knowing that my husband is put in a hard place . Then I have to find a balance to still include her no matter how indefinite things are and then still try to show up and create memories with my daughter that she rightfully deserves …
It’s not fair to your daughter that her life revolves around someone else’s schedule and is preventing her from having the childhood experiences you want to provide her with. Take that baby for her birthday. SD has two separate households and especially with living out of state, she’s naturally not going to be able to do everything and that’s okay.