Benefits of baby NOT having father’s last name.

I’m not sure where you’re located, but here in NY, USA, the man has 0 say in the name, whether he’s there in the room or not. So I’d say check your local laws surrounding that! But my children have my last name, because I made them/birthed them. As for having a child already with his last name, my mom gave me her baby dad’s last name unfortunately and had it changed to her maiden name when I was 3. It’s a couple hundred dollars, and once in a while you’d have to provide proof of name change (if that’s where you want it to go) but it’s not a horrible ordeal. I think your overall question should be if you want the kids to have the same name or not, with so many options. Or even hyphenated 🤷🏻‍♀️

My daughter has my last name, but in this situation, I'd probably use his last name. I wouldn't want my kids to have two different last names when they have the same father, and I don't think you can change a childs last name without both parents permission unless he has no legal custody

my kids have different last names, and I regret it. I wish they both had my last name.

I definitely wish I’d given my first my last name. Things were bad then too but I had hope they’d get better 😢

You can always change your first’s last name. Either way I’d want my kids to have the same last name whether it is mine or their dads.

I guess really my question was if there’s any benefit of them having my name for custody or anything like that…. Obviously I can’t change the past for my first child.

What’s the benefits of the baby having the mom last name is what I want to know

What's the benefit of having either last name? Can't really think of anything beyond carrying it from generation to generation. I have no regrets giving my daughter my last name

I don't know what actual benefits there are to a last name other than being able to easily identify who's parent and child but I chose to give my kid my last name because it's far cooler than any last name I've seen in the area and we are the only family in the state with my last name. I also figured her dad wasn't gonna be involved, and she was gonna be with me the majority of the time, so I didn't wanna give her his name.