Hitting

My 2.5 year old is the same except she’s doing it to me. Sorry I have no advice I’m hoping someone else does

@Rial i have tried ignoring, saying no that's not kind that hurts whoever it is name and also tried walking away. Just don't want her to think its okay but know its prob just a phase x

@Maz i used to ignore until she started doing it more. She’s absolutely fine with everyone else but not with me. Does she see your partner more often than anyone else.

We have had the same thing with hitting and pinching. We managed to eliminate it completely by doing a few things: So we would get down to her level, hold her hands gently in ours and say” that’s not very nice, we don’t hit (or pinch) we use gentle hands” and then we would show her with her hand or ours depending on how comfortable she is how to gently stroke someone instead. Then if she did it we would over the top praise her by clapping and saying things like: “well done Bella for using gentle hands!” And “that’s amazing gentle hands” and she would get all excited and completely forget about the hitting. She did it a lot for awhile to test our boundaries. She’d find it hilarious too. I just stayed calm, didn’t make a massive fuss about it but would remain firm in my voice and tell her the same as above. Once she realised she wasn’t getting the response we wanted it sort of fizzled out The thing that helped the most though was establishing the term “gentle hands” and using the s

Stroking motion to go with it. She would understand straight away in the end when she would hit her sister and I’d say gentle hands, she would immediately stop and stare at me while stroking her head instead. I’d go crazy praising her and she’d be so proud of herself. She’s recently started throwing stuff at her baby sister though so it does go through phases but for me it always works. Just establish a word/phrase to counteract it Praise when she stops hitting and does something else Distract and divert attention from hitting Don’t make a huge fuss about it when it’s happening. Don’t raise your voice for example but remain firm in your tone I also avoid saying no all the time constantly because the word started to lose weight to it. I’ve also started to micromanage her less which I found has actually helped a lot! This is all things that worked for me :)

With my daughter we would tell her she needs to be gentle and then take her hand to show her what gentle is. Now if she does hit and we say no that she needs to be gentle she’ll gently touch my face. She doesn’t really hit that much anymore but she’s only 18 months so I know that it can come back up😅

@Oceana I did a similar thing and it worked with my son too

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