Kisses too much - toddler now the other end of the scale
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@Stephanie thank you.. How would I get a 1yo to understand consent?😬🫣
Start asking if you can give her kisses instead of just doing it. I don't ask my son all the time anymore but now if I go to give him a hug or a kiss, he says "no hugs" or let's me do it. Since he understands that he can say yes or no to it, now he understands that other people can say yes or no too
@Sarah okay, great! I usually ask for hugs but we can't help ourselves sometimes & just plant kisses on her, but I'll try that. Thank you 😊
I've been asking my daughter for hugs, kisses, high fives, and noggins (head butts. Giving it a name and asking for them has kept her from just randomly slamming her head into mine LOL) And if she isnt enthusiastic about giving one of them, I say "thats okay. Its your body" and smile. If she wants something from me that I can't give or if I'm hella overstimulated and she is touching my face, I say "I will give you hug/kiss/snuggle when I am done" or "I do not want you to touch my face right now" and move her hand away. I think she is understanding that she does not have to give me whatever I ask for. So I will ask got a hug and she'll shake no and then I say "okay, a high five?" And she'll either do it or say no and we'll move on. Just be consistent with yourself and everyone else.
@Stephanie aww that's great. Thank yooou 🥰.. I definitely want her to learn consent & know that she doesn't have to give hugs or kisses unless she wants to. Gona try implementing that cuz it only took a few weeks for her to stop slapping & poking so much so hopefully shouldn't take too long 😂
Good luck! Theres also children's books about consent if you like to teach through reading too!
@Stephanie I'll have a search, thanks 😃
I think it’s funny when you say your daughter is kissing people all Willy nillie but then you say you do it to her.. you have to start by being the example yourself.. she is learning from you
@Kai Renee she's my daughter - I'm gonna wanna kiss her lol I mean there's worse things she could be learning from me. As the other HELPFUL ladies stated, I just need to teach her consent.
You could start working on consent with her. Just tell her that not everyone likes kisses and that we should ask before touching others. It'll take time, but is highly worth it!