Toddler defiance
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Ps the ouchie is the diaper rash lol. In case that wasn’t clear. That’s what I tell my little. Poopie and pee make ouchies if we don’t change it
Toddlers are such bullies sometimes 🤣🩷
I don’t have much advice, putting my son in the corner helps but he’s still a toddler
My daughter started this a couple months ago but it’s definitely cranked up. Now she has a high pitched scream accompanied by hitting or she just runs away. We do time outs and those seem to help reset the behavior. But 20min can go by and it starts all over 🙃
We hit the No stage a few times, I’ve learned (and still am) to phase questions where my LO gets choices. Example rather than saying “do you want eggs” , I’ll rephase and ask “do you want Eggs or Yogurt”. Takes away the No
That’s called the terrible twos but it’s not so terrible, this is where they start to become their own person constantly expressing their wants but not understanding what’s good and bad for them. she’s not purposefully trying to make you upset she’s just expressing her feelings the best way she knows. If youre letting out frustration in front of her it may show her to do the same which starts tantrums etc.. let her have a word in things so she feels included but still does as you say , in a fun toddler way. For example instead of “come here” giving her a fun task like “can you come here and jump and reach this picture” will speed things up, it’s not really about getting them to listen to you at this age it’s more about just getting them to do what you want , when they’re older is when they’ll understand they have to listen because you’re in charge, right now they won’t understand that concept and that’s ok we don’t need to make them be scared of us in order to understand and listen
Also like another comment said this is what I do to help my 2 year old still feel like she’s using her big voice as she’s having a say in something she wants…. is by giving options so for example: saying “put your shoes on we’re running late” , and they say “no I don’t want shoes”. instead you would say “do you want to put your shoes on? or do you want me to put your shoes on?” Or “let’s see who can put their shoes on the fastest” still doing the “fun toddler” way of doing things. Another situation example is “mom I want ice cream” instead of shutting it down say “we’re not having ice cream right now but you can have an apple or ____ which do you want?” giving them their voice by giving options you’re ok with makes them feel as if they’re still in control and using their voice. Or “ can we go outside?” Instead of no I say “we’re not going outside right now, instead we can color, bake muffins or play with Barbie’s which should we do together? but ofc use what you feel works best for u!
If she listens to her dad then that means he is good with boundaries and knows she gets away with more with you. It’s the opposite here, he gets away with things with daddy. I would say getting on the same page as him on boundaries and staying consistent, and not reacting when she defies you and smiles. But find some consequence (temporarily) so she understands she should obey. Usually giving options work. “We need to change your diaper, you either walk over here or I pick you up” “you have a dirty diaper, if we don’t change it, you’ll get an ouchie. Do you want an ouchie”?