I’m probably too “grown” to feel like this but I feel like the people I call friends even family in my life use me for their own benefit. They constantly trauma dump on me, never ask how I’m doing(only to then bombard me with their issues)

I feel like the older you get, the harder it is to find real friends. A lot of people are selfish and only care about themselves. I have a few acquaintances who only call me to vent about their own problems. One of them didn't even ask me about my baby until he was a month old and she was a "friend" at the time. It's disappointing. But you just have to find a handful of people who support you and it makes things better and distance yourself from those who don't. And you can always vent to us here on peanut for support. I'm sorry you are feeling hurt, your feelings are completely valid. ❤

Thank you for your kind words 🩷

You're absolutely not too grown to have needs. That’s part of human neccessity in life. We have needs and it's much more better to share our needs with those in our circle. You make someone feel better, they make you feel better in return. It should be reciprocal!. If you feel your relationahip is one way, I suggest you exit and find someone that can be more supporting. Better still, you can always get someone here on Peanut to listen. That is less costly and drama-free. Getting listened to doesn’t have to be from close companion. It could be from total stangers. I feel absolutely free with people that aint close friends. Find an army of ladies here on Peanut who are in similar shoes and would gladly answer any questions you might have.

I'm starting to feel like this with a lot of my friends as well. I have one or two that I see regularly enough to still call friends. Everyone else who I used to consider friends, I would now call acquaintances.

This has been my entire life and now that I’m no longer a people pleaser, I don’t have friends. I’m better off in the long run I have a new neighbor who is 71 and she is such a sweetheart and I feel like I have found a new friendship in her. She has offered to take my toddler anytime I need. That’s more than anyone I’ve known and more than my family has ever done.

It happens to me all the time and the instinct in me is to slowly distance myself.