I have a cup that's like half bottle half sippy cup in design and my daughter does really well with it. I'm in the process of trying to wean slowly as well, and what's working for me is offering her 3 meals a day to feed herself and snacks in between. If she eats, cool, of not cool. But when I was pressuring her into eating and when I was hand feeding her, it was more of a battle. I gave in, let her get messy and feed herself 3 times a day, and I just pay attention to what she reaches for and eats with enthusiasm .
Just wanted to share gently; that if it’s making you cry; maybe just wait. Comfort is just important as nutrients nutritionally. I don’t have weaning tip as I wait for mine to self wean themselves; but continuing with boundaries is possible with toddlers ❤️
I was ebf also and just stopped totally. It took me almost a month it was a lot of work but I made it. I’m using the comotomo bottle and she likes it a lot, the breast I stopped slowly every day. The night feed was the last one I stoped. I also didn’t want it to be cold turkey and it was the best for both of us. You can message me if you want
I’m a formula mom, but I would say maybe when you do the switch to whole milk see how she does and maybe don’t give up for a few weeks on whole milk and the bottle and still keep pumping so you don’t loose the milk. Have you tried the straw bottles? Maybe she would do better with those.