Struggling 😢

I’ve been struggling with a lot lately and feel it taking a toll on me mentally and emotionally.. could use some support right now. I’ve been in a toxic relationship for 5 1/2 years now, and it’s only gotten worse as the months go by. Now I’m in a position of being a “stay at home mom”, not necessarily by choice, but because i don’t have any help or support to work. I have my kids 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week. No support system or help besides when it’s beneficial for others. And my bf only helps for an hour or two with the bare minimum. 1 or 2 diaper changes a day and trying to force my kids in front of a screen sitting down or trying to make them sleep so he doesn’t have to deal with them. I can’t even get help to be able to sleep, only sleeping maybe 4 hrs a night, barely eating, it’s very stressful and hurtful. I feel like I’m being emotionally, verbally, financially abused. He checks my accounts and my phone to see what income or money i do get and he’ll take it and spend it, but lie to me about his income and bills not being paid. Also has me currently facing an eviction right now and already got me evicted from my apartment in my name two years ago, so i have nowhere else to go at the moment. He’s cheated on me my last pregnancy with his other bm and lied about it, and now withholds any affection or communication or anything unless he wants to ask for sex when he feels like it during this pregnancy. And I’m currently 6 months pregnant. I’m drained and hurting and don’t know what to do at this point. 😢😞💔

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This is a hard situation to deal with. The first thing you need to do is remember that your baby needs YOU so that he/she can grow and develop. If you’re not getting adequate sleep or eating, it’s not good for your baby. As far as your finances, have you tried any work from home jobs. There are a good bit of places hiring. Also, there are jobs like Spark or Amazon Flex that you can get short blocks to deliver to earn money and it doesn’t take 8 hours to be away from your kids to make money. The best part is your kids can go with you. You’re using your own car. As far as hiding your finances from him, you have to figure that out. There are apps that will hide apps on your phone. If you get any accounts that aren’t the ones you currently have, say like Chime banking, you could hide them inside of one of these apps and he won’t know you have it or know to check it. If you can get that set up, you can come up with a game plan to get yourself financially stable to get him out of your life.

@LeKenya I try my best when it comes to eating and sleeping, but my one year old has a hard time with her sleep schedule and with him forcing her to sleep all the time it messes up her schedule even more and I’m left to deal with it. Plus she has always been EBF since she was born, so she still wants to use that for comfort to go back to sleep or to relax. Which doesn’t allow me to be able to rest. And he doesn’t help me with my oldest, our 1 year old, or his son that he expects me to help take care of when we get him. He leaves all of that responsibility and stress on me. 😢 It’s been like this my entire pregnancy so far. & I’ve looked into WFH jobs and applied to a lot but keep getting turned down for some reason 😢 I’ve done Walmart Spark and Instacart since last year, but he also got our car insurance cancelled because he never paid it so now I’m not able to do that either and that money is now sent to collections in my name. 😢😞

@LeKenya at this point I’ve changed my password to my phone so he can’t just go looking through my accounts, but then he uses that to start arguments about me cheating and start fights. And then he also uses that as an excuse for him to cheat and get very disrespectful and spiteful. 😢💔 Just to then be very manipulative and try to apologize when he gets caught or talk his way out of it. It’s just all very confusing and stressful and hurtful.

Do you have family that will take the kids and you to their house to get better and get away from that person for little while

@Kendall Weresch no, i don’t. I went through the same things last year when he cheated. Me and my daughter left and went to stay with the family member and I was pregnant at the time, and my family member got very disrespectful and physically assaulted me.

@Airianna oh okay maybe you need to move away or move to different state with ur kids but it will be better way to get away

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