My nerves are shot I’m so stressed how can I relax?

Also I know I shouldn’t lash out at him I shouldn’t lash out in general I just don’t know how to reset right now and everything is so triggering.

Hey I've been going through this the last few days. Could vent together. It really sucks

i feel you. sitting outside in the cold and focusing on my breathing helps me

Temperature change is your best friend! My second tip, try singing your frustrations instead of immediately going to shout or yell

I hear u hun!!! I’m right there with u… everything seems to be pushing the limit lately. I’ve just discovered box breathing (inhale slowly counting to 4 hold it in while counting to 4 and then slowly exhale counting to 4 and then hold and start again) I run and lock myself in the bathroom and do a few of those and it really does help.

I have also been having a hard time. Yesterday I dropped everything and we all went outside for a walk in the early afternoon. It really helped to get out and feel the cold and sun on my face. It also helped to just see random people going about their day. It reminded me that I am small in a big world and that my stressors are temporary

Also, music. A feel good, motivating or sing a long playlist can really help. Grab a mic (my fave’s are spoon and/or hairbrush) and sing loudly and the kids love it and it can snap them out of a mood too. Even if you can’t do happy/sappy in the moment yelling to metal or rap is a good release!

Deep breaths and a chill playlist

Music for me. Times when I can’t just say “babe I’m heading out for a bit” which if he’s home and I’m overstimulated that’s exactly what I do, and sometimes I just go and sit in my car calling a friend lol. Head out on a Friday night. I pump music up, the music that gets my hips swinging and I can breathe through some squats lol. Music always changes a foul mood and the toddlers’ mood too. You also sound like you need a break. Tmr is Friday it’s the end of a long week (been moving, boxes haven’t all unpacked yet was waiting to get kitchen liners before I do the kitchen lol) so I know exactly how you feel stressed and tired and overstimulated. Take a break mama Xx coz I’m absolutely doing that tmr night

Music, change of scenery, belly breaths, singing, dropping everything to your “quiet place,” scheduling weekly time that you can do something you love, reading together - all will help with tantrums too as your toddler will learn cooping strategies from you modeling them. they still need us so much for coregulation. oh and also I’ve turned the 20 minutes of doomscrolling I would do when baby goes to bed into journaling time and it’s been immensely helpful to dump all the day’s frustration down on the page and move on with life

What really helps with anxiety is chamomile tea. Personally I don’t like tea but I know it’s helped me when I needed it.

Cold showers at least 2minutes , and morning affirmations on Spotify as soon as I wake up. I also go on walks listening to affirmations in my headphones , big breaths and gratitude always bring me back down 🧘🏽‍♀️ Because I’m awful when I’m mad & I’ve learned to keep that at bay I don’t want my son to see me that way but it’s super hard, one day at a time you got this 🙏🏽💖

You need to regulate your nervous system. I often sit outside on the grass or gently sway in the hammock. Look up how to regulate your nervous system and try to see what works for you,

If I’m at the stage where I am shaking while sitting I either go for a run, paint, or watch the office.. idk if you have some kind of therapeutic show that works for you? Or maybe some kind of outlet?

Go for a run or brisk walk listening to your favorite music nice and loud with good quality headphones. This works even better if you can take a gummy 🌳, wish I could do that but I’m breastfeeding!

I sing 😊 I'm terrible at it, but LO likes it, it calms me and I can focus on the lyrics and the tune and my breathing. But that's in the moment, for ongoing stress.. I make lists 😅 and then I set deadlines, timers and schedules and work out how I'll cope. If it doesn't add up, I grit my teeth and ask for help. It's not easy but sometimes there isn't enough of you to do the things.

Everyone has such great suggestions. I believe video games can help with stress. You can't focus on the things going on when you're focused on a game ☺️🩷