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All 3? 😅 I'd honestly either want support during my working hours when at home with baby or someone to help with housework/cleaning.

@Alex right? Both babies will be in nursery full time when we’re both working full time. I’m mostly worried about evenings like how am I going to stop work at 5:30, have to pick them both up by 6 (different nurseries), entertain them/ keep them from killing each other and cook dinner, bath and bedtime routine for both. It just seems so daunting and we’re not like “rich people” I just don’t even know where to start

Wishing you all the success

You're so lucky 🤍

And god just reading my last comment back I know how stupid privileged I sound. There are single moms who do all of it all on their own and do a great job. I do applaud them. I’m just not used to this and it’s going to be a huge change

Personal chef/house work then! Will give you that time/evening with the kids/your partner depending on what time he's home without having to worry about cooking, timing it right etc

Do you like to cook or does making dinner cause more stress than benefit for you? Are you able to easily stop work at 5:30 or is it hit or miss?

Yea never quit your job !! I would get a daily afternoon nanny and a cook .

Don’t feel bad for lightening your load in ways that you can just because others (myself included) can’t. 🫶 parenting is HARD, and in different ways for everyone

You can also get a nanny that does the cooking and housekeeping for you, even if they don’t show up daily

A daily evening nanny that cooks. He/She can do nursery pick up and cook dinner while you get to spend time with your kids. They can also help with bath and bedtime routine.

I think have a day of doing the nursery pick ups (even if your youngest isn't there yet) and cook dinner and see which causes you the most stress. I'll be made redundant soon so I'll be a SAHM for a bit. I personally would rather a cook but could the nanny do pick ups and cook dinner?

I would hire someone who could cook and clean so you could spend time with the kids 😄 Congratulations on the new job for your husband! Go you mama, for working full time and focusing on your ambitions, showing your little ones what is possible! 👏🏻

Thank you so much everyone! @Alexis good point I don’t really to be honest, mostly the mental load of deciding what to make but also I’m very like organized - cut things perfectly, clean as I go etc. so it can take a long time which we won’t have. Someone to cook & do nursery pickups definitely sounds ideal @Tasha Sorry to hear, is unfortunately happening all over the place these days! I hope you will love SAHM life and if you don’t you’ll find the perfect opportunity ❤️

I agree with the ladies I'd say perhaps a nanny who will cook also. There's nothing wrong with your post don't feel like you're wrong for posting about it. You have the financial means to be more flexible in the choices which suit you and your family best. Surely that's what we all strive for!? 😊

Honestly, if I could afford it, I would want to hire someone to do all the household stuff like the cooking and cleaning because I HATE doing all of that, I just want to play with my baby. You could get a cleaner to come in a few times a week so you don't have to do that and maybe a cook/chef once or twice a week and they could meal prep a few days worth of food for all of you so that's not something you need to think about. It would just be a case of reheating.

Cooking for me - that time between nursery pick up and bed will be the only time u get to see them and you may not want to miss out on that time.. listening to them play whilst u cook. Nah, I'd stay with the babies and have someone cook 🥰

If he’s doing the pickups/drop off and cooking is he going to continue to do that? The big thing is keeping on top of the washing and ironing plus cleaning so maybe have someone in to deal with that.

Amazingggg - I would choose all 3 girl ! Go you 🙌🏽💗

I would do someone who cooks dinner/tidies up. With the kids in daycare full time and you both working it’ll probably be nice to spend the afternoons together

Honestly I’d wait until the time comes that you’re back at work. It’s all well and good having these ideas however when it comes to it you might not want/need the help. If you do decide you want the help you and your partner could sit down together and work out what causes you the most stress and hire someone to take that load off of you.

Is a live-in nanny an option that's right for you? Someone to take care of the children when you are working and cook/ clean for you as well? If not, I would go with someone to cook and do all the washing up as I hate cooking and help with cleaning so that when you have free time, it's with the children rather than chores. You are incredibly lucky- what does your husband do? 👀

@Karen nope he basically won’t be here except nights with me and weekends! I currently do all the washing and cleaning so that’s one to think about for sure @Peer95 he’s technical - previously in cybersecurity and now will be at a fintech company. He’s super smart, went to one of the two top universities in the UK

As did my brother :) Awesome!

I think cooking and cleaning! I would want to spend all the free time I have with my kids and not have to worry about those things. They will only be babies for so long so I'd want to be able to give them my undivided attention for the limited time a day you'd have with them.

I have and value my mother’s helpers the most for their flexibility of being able to engage in a wide variety of areas. Currently I have two of them- one who drives and another who doesn’t -and they’re each able to look after the children, cook, clean and work on a wide variety of other tasks that you may have lined up for them . For example one of my helpers who has been with for nearly 3 years, has picked up my car from the dealership, changed my tire ( this is not the norm ), she attends events with me, she’s delt with my tenants on my behalf literally anything that I need her to she’s able to assist with she’s like you’re very own personal assistant and makes my life easier whenever she’s present. I also use Nannie’s but they’re more limited in scope of dealing with the children only well primarily anyhow. If you’re able to find a mother’s helper who is very good at what she does and who hopefully has a diverse skillset, it’s a complete- game changer …

@Donna We’ve been looking for a nanny but I’ve never heard of a mother’s helper. Any advice on where to look/ how to go about finding a good one? When I googled it I only saw articles on what they are, no agencies around me or anything like that.

@Mariam I find mine on care.com but anywhere that you find babysitters, & nanny’s should offer them. It’s just a matter of a nanny or baby sitter agreeing to alter their title and be more flexible with their primary mode of working with children alone or primarily. Some people are open to this and others aren’t. I post on care.com that I’m in search of a mother’s helper and I list the tasks that I need them to help me with. I usually say something like - I’m currently in need of a mothers helper who is able to cook, clean, assist with the children and help out with a wide variety of other tasks that I have either in or out of the home like running errands and various other odd jobs.

@Mariam https://www.care.com/c/what-is-a-mothers-helper/

@Donna this is amazing thank you! I’m in the UK but will take a look, hopefully we have the same type of thing

@Donna thank you!

If it were me i would hire a maid 2xs a week and someone to cook your dinner and meal prep like 3xs a week. And then That just leaves the fun hangout time with the kids.

I would have at least a daily nanny so you can work with no rush. And someone to do the house chores (cleaning, laundry, cooking). Si the free time you have is to have fun with your little ones

A daily nanny is a huge blessing especially as your family grows. Someone that baby loves and will give 1:1 attention and do fun activities with! You also can likely afford someone to tidy your house twice per week and basically do all your laundry, and if you hate cooking then getting someone to do your meals is great too. Sometimes when people make significantly more money it actually makes them less happy because they make decisions that increase their stress. So don’t forget to focus on gratitude and no matter how much money you have, know it will never be perfect and you’ll still have to work hard. I’m wishing your family so much joy! 💕

What does he do to make that kind of money🥴 my husband needs to get in on that🤣😅 but fr hire a nanny so you can still get some work done or even just to do things for yourself after work!

@MaryKate he’s going from cybersecurity into FinTech! Software engineering but quite high up on the ladder

Very cool!!

i can’t imagine being away from my kids, i’m a stay at home mom and i live cooking so i asked for a maid/housekeeper who comes in ever morning to clean up after my messes lol

How many kids do you have you mentioned a 3 month old, how old are the others.

@Cryss 21 months and 3 months! I’m still on mat leave until August of next year and my husband will start the new job January or February, so we’ll have a bit of time to figure things out before I’m working again as well

Reading through the comments, I am that single mom doing it all on my own without any support so I am doing 3 4 hour shifts a week and that’s my money to live on, and I would say that yea you are very privileged, and to DEFINITELY TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EVERYTHING that you guys can to benefit your family and quality time together as a couple. There is nothing wrong with needing help to have a stress free life. If you need a maid, nanny, and a personal chef so be it. Your kids will have quality time with their parents and will know they are loved either way no matter how decide to invest your money. I would say though I wouldn’t have the chef full time and have like maybe 2-3 times out of the week where you prepare dinner as a family and include the kids if they are old enough. But childcare is a necessity especially for two working parents.

@MaryKate that’s what I was saying, like can I get that on Amazon? I need that kind of money or a partner with that kind of money 😂😂😂

@Tara same🥴 we are drowning with everything increasing🥲

@MaryKate it’s so true. It’s crazy.