Military baby

Hell no. I would allow him to visit and spend time with him. I mean idk how old your kid is but if he’s old enough maybe spend a holiday with him but if not then no. Also you can fight that it would be inconsistent for your child as he will eventually just be deployed again. It’s completely taking him out of his routine. Fight this. Get a lawyer if you have to.

It sounds like he wants to "make up for lost time" after the deployment, which I get, BUT that's not how time works. The time he misses while deployed is just...gone. if he wants to be present once he gets home, allow that, maybe in the form of a week at a time or every weekend, but do what is best for your son and his relationship with his dad instead of doing what feels fair to you as the mom.

I'd get a custody agreement made. Some 'military' custody agreements can include a week visitation before and after deployment and then the weekends and split holidays. Reasonable access to electronic communication between child and parent during deployment should be made as well.

Absolutely tf not. Definitely the comment above mine. Get an agreement made.

That's ridiculous and selfish. No kid could deal with that. It's bad enough having a parent that deploys in the first place. He is clearly thinking about himself first, not he mental health of his son and his son's mother.

Fair ???? That won’t be that easy on the baby either … it’s irrational to ask for that. I understand he wants to make up lost time but that’s not the way to do it . You definitely need to get a lawyer ( just so you all can have a set routine for the baby’s good )