Done having kids

I don’t think anybody can understand the situation because it’s almost impossible. I mean I don’t know if you knew his situation before you had kids. If you did then maybe you shouldn’t have gotten with him knowing he doesn’t know how to love somebody.

He’s an adult and can learn. If he doesn’t want too than that’s another story

Honestly in a very similar situation. My bf (currently in the process of leaving him) thinks that bc he works a 10 hour shift and comes home and wants to relax that I need to do all the parenting during the week. I work from home for 8.5 hours everyday. I’m also a teacher, a chef, a maid, a therapist, a personal hygienist, and so much more for my child WHILE working. He doesn’t do shit unless he feels like it and other times I have to tell him to take care of our child. I’m also pregnant 6 months. So I completely understand and he also lacks emotional intelligence. I’d say it’s time for you to leave if you haven’t already and be a mother and a father since he can’t be relied on

To some extent men do what we allow them to do. You’re essentially single

Been in a similar situation my daughter’s father wasn’t involved in anything, and even before I was pregnant he thought just because he worked hard out in the sun all day he could come home and leave his dirty shoes on the clean tile floor. I had to do the grocery shopping and I even went to work while I was pregnant with Covid and bronchitis because he told me if I didn’t that I was in big trouble we’ve been apart for years.

I hate men that think like this i would never judge you or anything but does he show affection towards you? Money isnt everything honestly so much more comes with parenting its horrible he putting all that on you. I agree on men do what you allow them to do did he tell you he wanted kids and tell u he wanted u to be a full time stay at home mom? I would ask him to do simple tasks like feeding baby / bathing/ to bond and since i f*cking do it all day just like he works all day. My man is the most helpful man on earth i dont even need to ask him to do certain things but there are certain things you need to tell him to do yourself! And if all he cares is about money well tell him you want a nanny twice a week or something and go get yourself a nice girls date and pamper yourself dont close yourself off because of him

Sounds like he makes decent amount of money, even if is a nanny for one day a week do it because you deserve it!

And if you do decide to leave him which i totally would understand dont tell him just start setting up your exit plan. Which is daycare for both kids , housing, job. Or move to your parents house if thats an option but set up and exit plan babe💗

Thank you all ❤️ definitely making an exit plan. I'm emotionally and mentally drained. I would rather do it alone (as I am already)

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