Waking up to my neighbor yelling at her kids every morning...

Its not ok! Her kids are the ones who need the support!

It doesn’t hurt to say something… She may not even realize she’s doing it. Mom with 3 kids, she’s probably on autopilot. It could help bring her back to reality. Of course, if you’re able to help, that would be really nice of you. Ever since I became a mom, I take the “community” approach to life. Love your neighbor as yourself 🤍

@Kelsey totally agree with this

Sounds like one exhausted mom.

Idkkkkkkk, when it comes to people and their children I tend to mind my business these days. When I was growing up it was more “takes a village”, seemed like everyone knew each other as neighbors and more willing to hear one another out or accept the help of other parents. It’s not like that these days and you may very well get a not so pleasant response. If she yells at children it’s safe to say you’re fair game. So bear that in mind.

It depends on where you live to be honest. For example if you are in the Bronx, NY it’s like a norm. Moms cussing and raising their voice at their kids and smoking in front of them. If u approach them? U think that person will be friendly? Nope. They’ll cuss you out too.

Main question is, are the children safe? She won’t be hurting him too will she?

well, i won’t say just go and offer support straightaway.. maybe you can try to know her first like initiate a small talk or something and then start from here. it’s not nice to ask someone something personal directly. you can slowly take the conversation there lightly — like how is she coping with this or how is she doing as a mom. maybe she will open up and share or even will be okay to take support or advice

@Om lol I shouldn't laugh but I can definitely relate to this I'm from a particular community that if you try and be in the business you become the business 🤦🏾‍♀️

@Nika I agree

I would offer support. It’s lonely. It takes a village

People are quick to judge but 3 kids is a lot and she’s probably stressed tf out

Uhm I’d call the cops and tell them what I know and that I just want to know if the kids are safe

@Ashby the cops?! 🥴🥴🤣 the actual COPS? That’s asking for a big problem 😆 I had a neighbor do that because my son was in his room yelling at Fortnite. Didn’t end well for her, I’ll say that and skip a long story. I work in law, you never know who your neighbor really is. You gotta know the difference in what’s your business and what’s not

@Nika I don’t know what happens behind closed doors 🙂‍↕️ i had a neighbor who used to yell at her 3 year old and 6 year old for anything and I called one day that I heard her cussing and yelling at them and I found out she was abusing them. There’s a difference between a child yelling at a game, which by the way you should not call the police on a neighbor's child for simply screaming during a game, as this is usually not considered a serious enough offense to warrant police involvement. As opposed to a woman yelling aggressively at her six year old and a one year old. Op mentioned her kids are afraid. if you witness a neighbor mother yelling aggressively at a one-year-old and five-year-old who appear visibly scared, it is generally considered appropriate to contact the authorities, as this could constitute child abuse and warrant a police response.

@Nika also your reply is CONCERNING. “Didn’t end well for her” “I work in law you never know who your neighbor really is” sounds like you’d jump to abuse your power. I don’t KNOW you though so that’s my assumption. YOU don’t know if this mother is just stressed and needs help or if it’s an abusive situation. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to her you’re right don’t call the cops CALL CPS. they’re better equipped. Silly ass response comparing yelling aggressively to young children and toddlers to what in assuming could be between 8 and up of a child screaming at a game.

@Ashby all I know is karma is real. We all see things from the outside and have our own bias. I stand by my comment, calling the police has serious implications and again, I work in law. That’s exactly why I think twice before ever bestowing such judgement on anyone or inviting such attention. I wouldn’t do it unless I actually saw abuse, which yelling alone is not.

@Nika @Ashby also the thing that’s scary about it is if you are wrong and that child gets removed from their parents home you could cause unnecessary trauma and maybe abuse in a new home. I once had a 1st year resident think Mongolian spots on my daughter were bruises , took pictures, called the attending, they took my daughter out the room and I was terrified. They were wrong obviously but imagine if they did try and take her? I AND my daughter would’ve lost it 💔

@Minnie exactly that! And if it’s your neighbor, I can only imagine the contentious situation you’ve just created making false accusations. Even if the child isn’t removed it’s traumatic. My son thought he was in trouble when he was being an average 11 year old. And I have a history of DV with their dad. It is so scrutinizing and humiliating. You can cause a big neighborhood problem. That’s what happened in my situation. And I most certainly found out every REAL thing they had to be worried about that was their business and made it my business to report them. Like I said, you never know who your neighbors are. One background search gave me a lot of ammo. Don’t fuck with my kids, check your facts first.

@Ashby lol hell yes, I definitely will USE my education, position, career, and “power” to my advantage when I’m wrongly accused of something or targeted 😆 what planet are you on sis? And obviously the neighbor who called in my situation also thought there was abuse, exactly why the cops came; the fact I can explain what was actually happening is my point. We can see things but not know the whole of the matter. It went over your head and that’s okay. Like I said, those things have serious implications so be prepared for the reaction when you involve yourself.

@Minnie I don’t have the time to sit here and elaborate on an essay level what I saw and why sometimes intervention is necessary. You have to take in account cultural differences, you can’t base it off of one situation, you got to have at either been in the mothers situation before or have enough reason to believe they’re in danger. My comment did come off as jumping the gun and calling the cops reading back but I really only suggested that due to my past experience with something similar. @Nika I said “abuse” not use, I also said I don’t know you personally so I wouldn’t know based off one comment I couldn’t read in a different tone than you had meant it. Also, it wasn’t a false accusation, an accusation would be “she’s abusing her children” what I did report was what I had heard and seen and the cops only came to me and this woman who was abusing her children emotionally and physically and two battered up and bruised children. These two kids now life with their aunt happily.

@Ashby I don’t have an issue with reading and comprehension hence my capitalization of USE, correcting your assertion I would abuse it. I never start situations, but I will certainly finish them where my kids are concerned. My point has and will continue to be that there should always be caution in inserting yourself in any situation, especially somewhere as personal as where you live. That’s it, that’s all. I’m glad it was helpful in your situation, in others it may blow up in some way. The best comment here was above, maybe say hello to the woman, get to know her in some manner. Maybe she just needs to vent, maybe being able to shout “Hi!” Across the street etc. will give her pause when she’s shuffling out. Assumptions are dangerous and can be damaging. You made several even about me. That’s the behavior I’m cautious about.

@Nika I made one assumption and I apologize, I don’t think either one of us elaborated more which led us to make unfair assumptions, at least I did anyway, you’re right though I did make a huge jump here in this situation considering not all can be under the same umbrella. I cannot lead my personal situation to mould my opinion on all similar situations. I apologize and admit I was in the wrong 😔

@Ashby thank you very much, I appreciate your being able to see my point and in fairness, I see yours as well. It’s refreshing to be able to have discussions on this app and not have it turn into total defensive chaos.