In laws coming to visit pretty often

I’m sorry but that is weird, why are they coming 3 times in a day?! Even once a week would be too much for me! How are you having time as a family if they are constantly there? Your husband is enabling them coming and if he doesn’t see an issue then that’s also a big problem

Example this week they invited us to eat breakfast at a restaurant, then they came to “deliver” stuff for my husband, and then in the afternoon I don’t recall why they came I think dinner. The reasons could change and they could be as silly as I was at a garage sale nearby our house. And yes my husband enables them. This past week they came for several reasons, one day the mom came at night and she brought food but I don’t careee and the se stayed until I was done cleaning playing with my baby he’s one. I’m tired of fighting about it, I even told him that what if my family was coming over like they do and he said that he wouldn’t mind if they were to come and help.

We have family time when they are not around, but I have to say no to inviting them. He wants to bring them with us to the park and I’m like no. And yesterday he invited with out asking me if it was ok. He told me when we were there

I don't even want the extended family members that I actually *love* spending time with to come over that often. 😂 Three or four days a week is a lot, especially when they're making multiple visits per day.

Tell me about it I’m tired of this 😭 😔 he gets mad when I tell him something. I think at some point am leaving.

Couples therapy before leaving. But that is so weird. I could understand once a week maybe 2 and that's pushing it but what you are explaining is excessive and weird 🥴

I would have another talk with ur husband and put your foot down. Say you appreciate there help and that they want to see LO but the frequency of visits is starting to overwhelm you. If he won’t agree go into couples therapy and talk directly to MIL. Just say the same as above. You appreciate the help and that they want to visit. But you want days where you can do when you need without hosting

Are they hispanic/ latin by any chance?

It's way too much. I would go mental at my partner if this were us. Yeah, nothing further to add, way too much.

You need your husband on side for this. Id be tempted to do day long outtings with the little one on my own, no invite for them 🙈 .. EVERYDAY lol. Cant they offer to babysit at their house so you get time for yourself? The word that springs to mind is boundries, you need boundries with them so badly atm. 3 times a day is harrassment

@Ana Moore yes they are, and I am too and my parents are not like that.

@Emily I feel like he’s on their side. I don’t know what they have said to him because he changed his behavior and he once told me that he wouldn’t be in the middle. If he had to choose he would choose himself. And he’s not willing to set boundaries. I don’t want to get my MIL to babysit because at some point he wouldn’t want to help me taking care of the baby we would be like why don’t you call my mom. So, by not letting her babysit as much it’s making him help me more

@Sydney I don’t feel it’s worth it anymore, I have had this conversation since they started to coming to my house a lot, at the beginning I didn’t care this was we became parents, but after that everything changed

It might be a thing for their side of the family. I know that whenever my sister had her baby we were all there to do everything and Im not sure she loved it but she never complained. Its hard for them to understand space even more for the mama’s boy 😅

Never put ur happiness below anyone’s. Keep speaking up. The moment ur silent is the moment things end

Wow that is a lot. They must not have a lot going on in their lives. I am so sorry they are annoying you so much. What if you came up with silly chores for them to do. You said they liked to clean and cook? I would use that to my advantage. My mil will say things sometimes but I honestly think she may be undiagnosed and very high functioning on the spectrum. I would take up gardening or doing thing's outside when they come over. Your MIL or FIL can help you outside, so they are doing something useful. Maybe it will tire them out so much that they won't come over the next few days!!! You get help with your garden and they stay away. WiN WiN!!

@Ana Moore that crazy how did you guess spanish... but why is it that you were all at your sisters it was fine but if its the son, he's a mommy boy? I would be very very annoyed too.. it's too much. Maybe he's only child which is worse, being only son?? I know when baby is born the grandma gets excited.. her ovaries start to reset and she wants to parent all over again and I think she married to get son and now she has the dream alive.. she has son as husband and baby from him .. 😆 🤣 OK bad but true. I swear after baby the dads/ hubby change up real fast and its all about their mother... just crazy. Is she old grandmother or young and is it both parents coming over? If you have another kid with him it will get worse. If you been married short time, and new baby. It's hard to get back to old him. It's new dad and new mum and the husband is really self centered choose himself.

@Aliyah I come from a very traditional latin family (people that really only married within traditional families) and its pretty much a agreement that grandparents,aunties and sisters take over the house when a baby is born. The husbands already know that its just how it is and never see anything wrong with the lack of boundaries. They even side with their moms over the wife’s wishes and bla bla bla. I was very young whenever my sister had her baby but I remember even sleeping in their house so imagine how much the moms were all over their business 😅

@Ana Moore wow.. that a lot ppl.. can't imagine how they can be quiet if baby sleeping and mum resting. I'm guessing you didn't marry the traditional family with your husband? Ya guys think their mum is best boss and chef. At least they cook . I hopethis lady she gets her peace :/

I’m scared this is going to be me, I already feel so smothered and baby is not even here yet. We are looking for a counsellor now as I can’t take much more.

My in laws have just asked me to lock in the days of my caesarian so they can invite all of their relatives from overseas. Im not sure about any visitors in the first month or so. I feel so trapped.

@MJ omg... what over seas?? Who are these ppl and what country they coming from... are they ir all OK? Your supposed get rest... is husband out of his mind and think it's party time? Unless they coming to cook clean and let you sleep and rest... what kind of abnormal ppl r they.... If they all coming from the sea are they rich? They should give the money to you guys for extra help!