Tiny moan

My husband keeps telling me take it easy as my nesting mode is on full mode now. We have a toddler too so yes I’m exhausted but I feel like there’s so much to do, I’m almost 38 weeks and he’s working so a lot of it is left with me even though he says he will do things they don’t get done so I know I have to do them anyway. He even said to make him a list which I did 3 weeks ago and he’s done maybe one or two things but there’s about 10 things. He said today he might just wait for paternity leave to do them BUT I will need his help then with the baby and our toddler, so I’m just feeling a bit bummed out I’m so tired and emotional. If I say something like “oh I didn’t sleep well” or “my back hurts” he always says “me too” or sorry I can’t help I’ve got loads of work to do. Obviously he does stuff I’m not being totally fair but I need to moan and I just want some guilt free supports. My mums been helping a bit less the moment she found out I’d stopped working I think she thought oh great you don’t need any help now. She was only helping one day a week but I feel like I still need that time even though I’m not at work. Ok rant over thanks for reading 😂

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Ok maybe not that “tiny” of a moan 😂

That is a little frustrating, especially if these things need doing in time for baby 🙈 the "me too" thing gets to me too when my husband says it. Can they not just read the room and bite their tongue? Haha. Is it you too, though... really?? Were you woken up with a baby headbutting your bladder, numb hands, and an aching hip, hmm???

I could have written this myself.. because same girl 🥲 it’s easy for people to tell you to rest when there is still stuff to be done, and no-one is helping. I can’t offer advice, but just want you to know there will be loads of us in the same boat right now x

It’s so frustrating, it’s not for him to “help” you, he’s a parent, getting it all done and caring for your toddler so you can rest is literally part of his responsibility. Imagine if we said “sorry can’t help, growing a baby” 😂You should be getting all the help you can at this stage as you can’t work yourself to the bone until baby comes. The rest is important for you but also for baby, you need save some energy for the birth. I would have a frank conversation with your husband and just explain it that way. I’ve had to do it too and my husband didn’t actually realise how much I was doing or take on board how tiresome this last stage is - they are just wired differently 🙃 he is now really getting stuck in to help without me having to nag as much 😊

My husband is the same, so you ladies are definitely not alone. And when I say, but you're not carrying around a tiny human! He says I'm making it a competition.....I bloody well am and I don't care haha. Just keep calmly trying to convince him to get through the list before baby comes as it will get a lot longer after

Thanks ladies 😘😘 ❤️

Haha I'm in the same situation. Sounds like most men are a bit like this to be honest. What's really helped is letting him sort our his own stuff. He's packed my hospital bag and baby's but not his own. I stopped nagging once 'my' things were sorted. On the day he will just have to deal, and I will be watching with amusement. 🤣🍿

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