Am I being dramatic?

First off, let me start by saying I u distant my kids are 100% my responsibility. I live in a city where my husband’s mom is the only family, and I have two under two. So my husband’s mom is always saying she’s going to come over to be with the kids, but she never does. Like she literally voluntarily says she will every week, but once the day comes we won’t hear from her. It is really starting to frustrate me because I do look forward to have a break sometimes and being able to go do adult things with my husband. My husband is saying that I should just stop believing her, but as the grown woman she is, I feel she should stop just talking to hear herself talk. Not to mention, the entire time I was pregnant she would say how she was going to come over so I could get some rest; she literally did not come once! Last year was our first child’s(her first grandchild’s) christmas. She made a plan to come over for dinner and spend the night for Christmas Eve. We didn’t hear from her all day, and of course, she was a no show. Christmas day comes and she says she going to come over, but she goes to her mother in laws instead! I am growing so annoyed with this lady! She is just so full of it and I’m at my wits! All she wants to do is come around for a few and get pictures of my kids for Facebook/IG!! Then she’ll Say things like the day my daughter was born was the best day of her life😡I just can’t!!

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Absolutely NOT being dramatic! That would piss me off so much! It's totally understandable to want her to follow her word and come help out to give you a break! And then for her to use your kids on social media to act like she's such a good grandma when she does nothing... definitely super annoying 🙄

Id be mad too. Can you talk to her and tell her that everytime she says she is coming over you make plans that end of having to be canceled last minute due to her not showing up so going forward you would appreciate her not making plans unless she is 100% sticking to them

@Karime I can, but I honestly feel Like my husband should. If it were my mom, I would talk to her if my husband had an issue. Eventually, I see that I will Have to though!

I am so frustrated for you right now! I’m so sorry. Your feelings and frustrations are 100% valid!! I would be very upset. It’s not often that we get breaks. When someone offers a break then does not follow through (especially more than once, or in your case many times) that’s really hard not to be disappointed and upset by. Sending calming thoughts and strength your way! Have you ever tried sittercity.com or care.com to find a sitter? I use to be a babysitter and nanny when I was younger. I know it’s frustrating to have to think about paying someone when a family member is offering but not following through. Maybe you can splurge so you and your husband can get some time? Some sitters are cheaper than others. Generally depends on experience and qualifications, of course.

@Alyssa once my baby boy gets a little Older I’m going to have to start getting sitters! It’s honestly not in the budget, but i see we won’t have a choice!!

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