Overthinking?

Maybe I’m overthinking but every weekend my fiancé has his son we are always together doing family stuff. They sleep over my house, we go out and do things etc. Recently his son’s mom exploded because she doesn’t want me near the child. 5 years and she’s still causing issues. We just ignore her, there’s nothing she can do. Basically it’s tough shit. We are getting married she has to get over it. The jealousy is unreal and I don’t understand why. I’ve tried so hard to communicate with her but she tells me to go fuck myself. Anyways, this weekend we were all together last night. Today I call my fiance cause I know he had to go to work. I said I’ll take step son while you’re working if he wants. 6 hours later and no call. He ended up taking step son to work with him. I just called him and said what’s going on for dinner? He said “son and I are stopping for Chinese, I can drop some off to you but I need to go home after and then decide from there if we are coming back.” I didn’t say anything but I’m overthinking tremendously. I keep telling myself maybe he just wants time with his son. But deep down I keep thinking this is because of his ex exploding. I don’t know how to bring this up to him because he’s under a lot of stress with work and money and I don’t want to add to it. But I also don’t want to insert myself where I’m not welcome. The problem is, I miss my stepson too. My kids miss him. We only see him every other weekend and that’s if his mom doesn’t have a bug up her ass. One weekend she wouldn’t let stepson come and it upset me to the point of crying. He said “imagine how I feel that’s my fucking son.” I have to walk on eggshells with this situation.

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Does dad have visitation through court? If so, he can show up with the cops to collect his son for his time and file contempt if it continues to be a problem. If not, he needs to go to court to get an order. Are y’all waiting until marriage to move in together? Bio mom will have to accept you being around if you’re going to be the wife. If Fiance is having a hard time setting boundaries now and not letting her dictate things, she is gonna make y’all life hell. It’s definitely something that will have to be discussed.

@Jasmine yes we are waiting until marriage to move in together. We have four kids all together so it’s going to be a huge adjustment. My two kids are in school, his son is every other weekend, and his daughter is in college. So it’s a lot we need to think about. I don’t necessarily want to uproot my kids from their school especially since they are the only two kids we have to worry about with school if that makes sense. We are in the process of hiring a lawyer for custody. Until then visitation is every other weekend. When she withheld him the one weekend he did file a report with the police to have on paper for court. Maybe I’m just overthinking. Fiancé literally ignores her out bursts which is amazing, but I can’t help to think it is affecting him. She wants the time with son and fiancé to be just them two. No one else. She doesn’t want him working when he has his son. She literally just wants those two together 24/7 no one else involved. I’m worried that’s getting to his head.

@Jasmine I understand him wanting to spend some time alone with his son. Totally get it. But I’m worried the reasoning behind it is her outbursts. He’s very sentimental and I’m afraid the stuff she says has him thinking “maybe it should just be son and I on those weekends.” Like I said I could be completely overthinking. But it’s unfortunate because we miss step son too. And I have no idea how to bring this up because it’s a very touchy subject and he has a very short fuse when it comes to anything having to do with her, son, court.

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