Struggling

So sorry to hear that. It is so exhausting when you can’t get a decent amount of rest during the day and/or at night. Is your baby breastfed or formula fed? When my LO was about 2 months old her tummy bothered her a lot and she would cry a lot throughout the day. I then realised it was linked to my diet and cutting out some foods helped. If your baby girl is on formula, could she be having issues with digesting milk? I’ve read that there are some lactose free or prescription formulas. As for the night routine, we do bath time, followed by massage and then I put her in a sleep sack and nurse lying down. After she falls asleep, I stay with her and then transfer her to her cot.She used to fall asleep around 9 pm. Then we gradually pushed the bath time earlier. I also watch for the signs of her feeling tired, like rubbing her eyes or yawning before she gets overtired and starts yawning. Every baby is different though. I hope this might help and that it gets a little easier for you xx

feel free to message me and if you ever need to call or vent i’m here to help, those early weeks can be hard but there’s plenty of ways to cope x

That sounds so hard. Colic is normally gone by that age. Is she ill or was it her jab? Have a feel for any swollen teeth. It's early but not unheard of for babies to get teeth at 4 months. For what it's worth my baby only went at a reasonable time at 2 months and from 3 months onwards was more like 9pm and from 7 month 10pm. At this age you can start to time wake windows and naps and get into a bit of a routine which helps. It's fine to put her down to have a breather. My baby loved looking at Christmas tree lights from that age it was one of the only things that helped so we kept it up the whole year haha. He was 13 weeks on 6th January. So try putting tree up? Also the fish videos from cassio toledo on YouTube (sweet lullabies) or the Fisher price otter music. Don't be afraid to ask your partner to walk around with her. I remember walking around for hours at that point evenings. You've got this it gets so much easier

Your not alone hunnie! For us I don’t struggle to get him down it’s more what can we find that he approves of to keep him entertained in this time otherwise he’s so fussy! We struggled with witching hour(s) for weeks and weeks where we physically didn’t eat before bed at some stages. Now we’ve started putting him down earlier to manage to eat together miraculously, however our routine usually starts earlier too. • bath (3 times a week) • sensory time (he loves his projector light) • final feed • lullaby music on YouTube • swaddle • down for the night (if he falls asleep after the feed then fair enough, otherwise I just lay him down awake and he soothes himself) I’ve done similar this since he came home though so he’s used to it by now. We’re currently stuck in the regression stage and I am exhausted - there’s always something new for a mum to tackle isn’t there😩 but your never alone it’s all about finding what works for you. Have you got a car? Or does she enjoy walks?x

I 100% promise you this phase will pass. It was for me the absolute hardest bit and the bit that would make me most reluctant to have a newborn again. The routine takes time, I slowly started to notice that she was sleeping earlier and then started to put in a routine. If your baby is still more in the newborn phase for sleep, things i found helpful included a walk in the evening as she liked to get out and see the world and it made the evening shorter for me and gave me some energy to face the rest. Otherwise I'd just do as much skin to skin as possible to help regulate their nervous system. You're doing great.

Sorry to hear this, I can fully relate as my little boy was exactly the same it was awful. I no it doesn't help now but it does get better. My LB just stopped one night at around 4 months old. Hang in there your doing a great job x