Am I in the wrong or being too insensitive

My partner has regularly gone out spontaneously on the weekends since the baby has been born (now 10.5 months old) recently I asked if he could pre plan nights out instead so I also get the chance to go out and plan things with friends as I haven’t been out with just my friends since he was born. He had planned a few weeks ago to go out yesterday but it all fell through. My little one hasn’t been very well with a cold cough and bit of laryngitis and is only now getting over it, but I now have caught this and is quite unwell and have been advised to bed rest which is hard with a baby but I was hoping my partner would have stepped up and looked after our baby while i recovered. Yesterday he asked his mother to have the baby overnight while he still went out but i didn’t feel comfortable with this as the baby still isn’t 100% well either and I thought that it was best that my partner looked after him. Am i being unreasonable? I just thought it was selfish of him wanting to go out and dump the baby with his mother and go out to get drunk. When he should be looking after our son while i recover and better again.

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You’re not being unreasonable

He’s a parent as much as you are, he should be taking care of both of you in this circumstance and making it easy for you to go out with your friends too

@Blythe this is what i said but he just kept saying that he needs down time.. If i was well he could have gone out but as I am not very well and struggling he could have at least stay in for us. There is plenty of other opportunities to go out.

You need down time too, and especially if you’re ill

@Blythe I know, I don’t really have a voice either to get my point across to him.

Send him a text and say “you need to be the parent today.” And leave it at that, if he decides to take baby to his mums let him and rest up. Then, when you’re better you need to have a very serious conversation with him

@Blythe I will do thank you so much xx

I agree with you, but atleast he didn’t expect you to have baby still. He sorted out childcare

@Hollie I did say to him that I was grateful he sorted childcare but he should really be watching him as he is his father and can always go out another time there was no urgent need to go out. Then he left the baby with me anyway and walked out 🤷‍♀️ Xx

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