Candid

Im always met with it's going to be ok. We can talk more later. Never anything like how can I make it easier for you. And also my older two aren't his and he will say that to me as well. It hurts and it's pushed me away honestly. I wish I would have had this group back then. 😪

Damn, to say the other two aren't his is kinda a low blow imo. My husband has taken on the father role of my older two, whose biological dad died when they were younger. He's never thrown it in my face or not listened to my feelings, especially something as important as ppd. I've suffered with it after each of my 4 children. I'm due any time now to give birth to my 5th. I couldn't do it without my husbands help. I hope your husband learns to understand what you need from him so you can get the help you need and deserve. Good luck!

Like I just wish he did stuff with it in mind. Like he pushed me to take a cruise I had booked before I ended up pregnant but like ruined everything in the 3 days I'm gone. Like everything. He knows I have issues with touch and he rocked her to sleep every fucking nap. Like I can't rock her to sleep every fucking nap. And then it's my way and your ways are different and it's like no shit. Like I left to get a break and everything is just worse when I get back and he don't get why. Like I walk her to take a nap and he's all oh take the walk get her tired and then come back and you'll get double the rest time and again the issue isn't the baby like I'm not a harm to my daughter, I just do stuff a certain way that just works to avoid issues with my ppd. But no he just has to act like a fucking know it all. Like taking the baby away isn't the solution. I just don't want to be the default parent anymore. I want to go back to work and have a life. Like I was active all day to now this.

Like I just want to interact with adults on a day to day not count the hours and minutes till the next nap time. I don't even remember it being this bad with my first cause I lived with my mom and sister like I had constant help constant adult interaction. My mom is dead now and sister lives in the Bronx I have no help but him.

Because apparently I'm just so horrible at it he needs to come and just take her when I'm trying to acclimate her to my way again. So if that's the case let me return to work and he can take his leave. I hate being home anyway.

What im hearing is you are feeling belittled by his actions. Would that be accurate?

Yes in a way. Like I would like him to admit he did what he could with no thought of how it might effect me and trying to intervene at every point of me trying to reestablish our routine is not the right way of going about it.