Urgent advice please

Stopped cosleeping due to partner coming back into bed (finally got his sleep apnea under control) bubs is too big for next to me so cot is now in his room and I sleep on the floor next to cot. However floor is cold and uncomfortable :( bubs wakes up and doesn't want to sleep in cot so he sleeps on floor with me rest of the night. I don't want this to be a habit because bubs should really be in a bed. Partner doesn't want to buy floor bed due to no space but he also doesn't want cot in our bedroom as it takes up space. So stuck on floor which is not good for my chronic pain. I wake up in pain and stiffness. Don't know what to do. Bubs is 8 months old and very clingy so won't sleep alone.

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Partner go back to sleeping where he was before? Babies are little for such a short time it won’t be forever

@Gem he was on the sofa and refuses to go back there

Well then tell him that he either sleeps on the sofa or you get a floor bed 🤷🏽‍♀️ just get rid of your bed frame for a while (either store it or buy a new one in future depends if you have anywhere to put it) and make sure to allow for airflow under mattress. We got rid of our frame and have our mattress on the floor and getting another frame when kids are older

I wouldn’t stop sleeping with my baby. They’re only small for a short while and nothing compares to the joy and safety I feel when I open my eyes and see my baby asleep next to me.

@Gem didn't think of that thanks. He most definitely won't get rid of bed frame so will probably buy a floor bed and tell him to stuff it 😂

Honestly We made our living room couch, a bed. We had an extra full size bed after we upgraded the real bed to a king size one, and we just tossed our couch & left the second mattress so that dad wouldn’t be left on a couch if he’s snoring too much or has an overnight shift If you don’t have an extra mattress and the idea seems very weird still, look into getting a futon! Won’t look as weird but will get the job done

@Gem agree with this x

Get rid of baby’s cot and get a floor bed for his room! He’ll be able to use it for years instead of eventually getting a toddler bed anyway so I’m not sure why your partner is so against it. It’s not okay for you and your baby to continue to sleep on just the floor

@Dayna he's got quite a "me first" mentality so he wouldn't want to compromise his comfort and convenience. Especially since he doesn't agree with cosleeping anyway - even though I'm the one who wakes up for the feeds and changing while he sleeps like a log 😂. Anyway we slept on the floor last night, he said "you will get used to it like I got used to the sofa". He's a lovely guy but can be a bit selfish at times.

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