I think being thin is often viewed as a big goal by people and those people might not understand that in a lot of situations loosing weight is not a good thing. I lost weight due to HG in pregnancy and some people said things that were probably meant as a compliment but made me feel rubbish since I desperately tried to keep food and drink in… it sounds like your aunt sees weight as something to loose and has no idea why you lost yours/ what hardships that weight loss came with.
@Eva she knows, she made comments on it the day after I explained everything. But it was more than once. My sister tried to say something but was dismissed
@Rhianna that could be true, she’s always been pretty self centred. I’m just gonna ignore it and not feel butthurt about it.
Sometimes I think people don’t know how to act in these types of situations where there’s a lot of sensitive and emotional issues and history. Whether they should bring it up directly or avoid it. Your aunt may have felt it was best to avoid talking about your previous relationship and the abuse you suffered, maybe thought that talking about it might upset you. So she instead focused on something that she thought you would find a bit easier and possibly she thought she was paying you a compliment saying you’d lost weight. Maybe your aunt thought she was relating to you the only way she could and making “easier” conversation by focusing on weight 🤷🏻♀️ I’m not saying you’re being over sensitive because you’re entitled to feel how you want to but I’m just trying to maybe come at it from a different angle. I don’t know your aunt, her self-centred approach may just be her natural personality 🤷🏻♀️ x