Am I being over sensitive??

Sorry long post ahead!! I haven’t really spoken to my aunt much in around 2yrs. I was socially isolated and withdrew due to my abusive partner. I’ve had 2 babies and currently half way pregnant with my third baby. I finally got my shit together and fled the relationship and am reconnecting with family I’d isolated from including this aunt. I stopped by her house on the way to our destination (2hrs from main destination). It seemed like all she could fixate on was me and my weight. She’s on the bigger side and while I used to be somewhat big (80ish kg?) too but due to the relationship/financial strain I would constantly not eat to make sure my kids would have enough whilst also chasing around 2 babies/toddlers. She knows everything about the relationship/situation when I escaped. I’ve lost a lot of weight, even despite having kids and being pregnant (currently 56kgs). She was saying how it was unfair that I don’t look like I’ve had kids at all while she looks like she’s had 5 (she hasn’t had any children). I just want to know if I’m being over sensitive due to the whole situation of leaving being fresh/being hormonal due to pregnancy?
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Sometimes I think people don’t know how to act in these types of situations where there’s a lot of sensitive and emotional issues and history. Whether they should bring it up directly or avoid it. Your aunt may have felt it was best to avoid talking about your previous relationship and the abuse you suffered, maybe thought that talking about it might upset you. So she instead focused on something that she thought you would find a bit easier and possibly she thought she was paying you a compliment saying you’d lost weight. Maybe your aunt thought she was relating to you the only way she could and making “easier” conversation by focusing on weight 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not saying you’re being over sensitive because you’re entitled to feel how you want to but I’m just trying to maybe come at it from a different angle. I don’t know your aunt, her self-centred approach may just be her natural personality 🤷🏻‍♀️ x

I think being thin is often viewed as a big goal by people and those people might not understand that in a lot of situations loosing weight is not a good thing. I lost weight due to HG in pregnancy and some people said things that were probably meant as a compliment but made me feel rubbish since I desperately tried to keep food and drink in… it sounds like your aunt sees weight as something to loose and has no idea why you lost yours/ what hardships that weight loss came with.

@Eva she knows, she made comments on it the day after I explained everything. But it was more than once. My sister tried to say something but was dismissed

@Rhianna that could be true, she’s always been pretty self centred. I’m just gonna ignore it and not feel butthurt about it.

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