I don’t know how to care for my newborn

Sometimes the struggling to latch can be something like a tongue tie, lip tie, or cheek tie. That or you could have flat nipples. I have flat nipples and it was hard for my babe to latch properly on top of him having all three of those ties mentioned above! I went to a lactation specialist ❤️

@Lilly how eye opening! I was initially worried about a tongue tie as we really struggled in the beginning and she kept making a clicking sound when feeding. She has an appointment booked for this. And the flat nipples.. I think I may have this. Sometimes one doesn’t protrude as much as the other..is this a sign?

It could be yes! Mine didn’t protrude at all! I really had to squeeze my breast into my baby’s mouth for him to latch!

Aside from the other suggestions she may need to burp in between feeds, could be frustrated with the milk flow or could also be a milk allergy but get the tongue tie checked first x

It's hard being a mom! But just so you know it's very normal for a newborn and infant to knead and slap your breasts while feeding. It's their way to try to make more milk! It CAN be a sign of a heavy letdown so having your midwife watch you nurse can be really beneficial and if they're not a lactation specialist, booking an appointment with one is definitely a good idea.

Can you look up breastfeeding support groups near you? My local council runs one with qualified employees and volunteers, I go every week even if I don't need specific help just for something to do and see people. When I've got a specific worry I can ask them

If you think she needs to poo, I found that it happens much quicker if baby is in a sitting position (gravity helps - also with burps)

I found the newborn stage the hardest and felt like all he did was cry and I was never sure what he wanted. He’s a very happy active baby now so just know that it does get easier!

@Hannah oh I didn’t know you had to burp between feeds 🤦🏻‍♀️ tbh I read somewhere that breastfed babies didn’t need to be burped at all 😖

Thanks @Chr@Chrissy have my midwife coming over today so I’ll do this

@Brynne looks very comfortable 😊I’ll give this a go

@Eva yesss froggy legs 🤣

@Lisa thank you 😊

It is as long as your breasts aren’t too big and soft 😅 if that’s the case you might have to hold baby’s head up by the forehead so they can breathe lol

Thank you ladies for commenting! Gave me a sense of community ♥️

Mine was very windy and had colic when she was younger and it would take up to an hour to fully burp her sometimes. Infacol was a god send. Keeping them upright for ten-twenty minutes also will help any tummy problems before lying them down - we wouldn’t lie down when we’d just eaten would we ♥️. But the fussing with mine was usually a burp so when she started to wiggle and fuss around I’d take her off sit her up and a burp would come and then she’d be fine. Loads of helpful suggestions here from everyone so I’m sure you’ll find the solution soon. They’re very tricky when they’re small it’ll get better x

@Brynne hahaha just made me grateful for my tiny tatas😭

@Hannah thank you, very informative! I’ve been hearing the word colic a lot..what are the signs to look out for? Yes I’m very grateful to everyone who commented. 😊

It’s essentially crying without any obvious cause there’s loads of information out there your midwife or HV will be far more qualified than myself to advise. My experience was crying for hours on end despite being fed changed burped etc and she had really bad wind that would take hours to get out. Bicycle legs, being held upright after feeds and burping and infacol helped and it went away at about ten weeks as fast as it came. x

It’s helpful knowing what to look out for but I don’t think my baby girl has this. She’s mostly quiet tbf. Thank you 🩷 @Hannah