Over stimulation

I’m a new Mum to a wonderful little boy (4 months). I was on the receiving end of a lot of fear mongering comments whilst pregnant…”you’ll never sleep again”, “you’ll hate your partner”, “you’ll hate your body,” “the newborn stage is so awful”. None of which has been true so far, although I appreciate its early days. But I would have much preferred some honesty about the over stimulation! When I’m trying to meet work deadlines, the kitchen is a mess, the dog has trampled mud onto the carpet and our baby boy is screaming….its “hard” (A term that I kept hearing a lot) but it’s hard because it’s over stimulating. My senses can’t process it all at once! Today I drove to a friend’s house leaving baby and dog with husband….the 20 minute drive by myself was heavenly. And totally quiet! Perhaps everyone experiences it differently, but it feels like the demands on my senses are just too much when our baby is crying. My brain just can’t take anything else in! Anyone relate to this?

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Girl, I know the feeling lol I remember when i was going through it.. I looked it up. They basically said when our babies cry, it releases oxytocin and endorphins to the brain 🧠 almost like when you’re injured your body releases endorphins to the brain to alert you’re in pain. I showed this to the father of my child and he helps a lot more 🤣 Google states “As you might imagine, mothers produce a lot of oxytocin, and research has shown that oxytocin makes us more sensitive to our baby's cries. The response time to a crying baby is almost twice as fast as most other sounds.” “when a baby cries, it can trigger the release of endorphins (also known as endogenous opioids) in the caregiver, particularly the mother” Hope this helps 🌸🥰🦄

I mean some of the other things were also try for me lol but the overstimulation was HARD after the first baby. You have to get used to someone constantly needing you and being in your space with noise. And I hate my dogs now 😂 I used to love my animals so much, then had kids and they all annoy the shit out of me! I’m on baby 2 now and if I don’t start the day in a super positive mood with activities that distract my 3 yr old from being obnoxious out the gate, the day is just a total shit show of feeling like my skin is crawling and my brain is melting. Motherhood is tough and I don’t think men really get that part unless they’re home too. Then you get the husband wanting to have sex now that you’ve lost the prego belly and I’m always like “please back the f off” because I’m over being touched

Newborn stage was so much easier for me than people make it out to be. It's the next stage that's harder. Like finding ways to keep her entertained while I get one of the many chores done or be able to make dinner without her starting to cry. It can definitely be draining some days both physically and mentally.

Yesss!!!! I get this too! Running helps me! Even if I have to take my baby with me! But yea I have struggled with it a lot! I even purged a lot in our home just to have less stuff everywhere that helped me a lot too!

These comments are great :) I have a LOT of guilt around the dog! Honestly he means the world to me. But when he follows me from room to room when baby is crying it’s just weirdly infuriating.

@Elyse I’m a weight lifter - ex group fitness instructor. Training helps SO much!

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