Correcting Behaviour

Following as she is constantly over at the radiators and doors but doesnt care when I tell her to stop

Same with doors, I’ve baby proofed everything so it’s all safe but I don’t want to encourage this behaviour as when we are at others houses they aren’t going to be baby proofed!

We seem to have done quite well with this (and I am so surprised myself 😅) but I mainly make an ‘UH’ noise that sounds very stern. I read up on this lots due to having a v naughty nephew so thought I’d be in for a challenge 😂 apparently, babies don’t understand ‘no’ and ‘don’t’ and will take the action word from your sentence instead. So if you say ‘don’t touch that’ they only hear ‘touch that’ - not sure who invented this very obvious design flaw but 🤷🏻‍♀️- so I make this ‘UH’ stern sound and then I say things like ‘away from the radiator’ or ‘the TV is not for playing’ etc and he has taken to it quite well. Don’t get me wrong, he will still go near the TV etc and look at me like ‘why can’t I touch it’ but the actual touching etc seems to stop. Hope that makes sense! Like I said I’ve read up on this tonnes so if you have any more questions feel free to ask ☺️

Ahhh that sounds logical, I will start using ‘uh’ and fingers crossed that will work better and make a difference. I have a 12 year old also and I don’t remember him not listening after so many attempts to say ‘no’ but then it was so long ago I can’t remember a thing or at what age he understood etc! I know baby is still so young so his understanding will improve as his older but I feel like I’m spending my days saying ‘no’ at the moment to him , pulling him away from things and then his getting upset ☹️

Yeah it’s really weird but it seems to be working for me at the moment. Every baby is different! My very hard to impress Mum said she’s surprised how well behaved my baby is so I’m taking that as something 😅 I think you also just need to be consistent. If you say they can’t do something then make sure you stick to it or I think they get confused. My son isn’t allowed to touch my Stanley cup as it’s very heavy and he might hurt himself, but sometimes it’s empty I think ‘why am I making this rule’ but I know if I don’t stick to it then he’ll get confused. I think just try make sure the rules are very black and white with no grey areas.

This is useful! I'm having issues with things like getting him in the car seat at the moment! He just pushes out and stands up and finds it funny. I tell him 'we need to get in the car now' etc. Do you think I just keep trying and sitting him back down or give him a second to play before trying again? He doesn't seem to do it for my mum or boyfriend!

@Becky mine was doing this! Kept thrusting his hips out and it was a nightmare! I again do the ‘UH’ noise and then just calmly kept saying ‘it’s time to go home now, we need to get in our seat’ or ‘we can’t go home until we’re safely in our seat’ and he seems to get it now. Think he understands what ‘home’ is 😂 I’d say ‘we can go home and see Daddy’ or ‘when we get home we can play with our toys’ etc so make home sound a bit more fun 😂

Thank you! Will give the Uh a go! So annoying! Spent a lot of time stood in car parks waiting for him to get bored of exploring the car so I can sit him down!

@Becky I am in no way an expert on this it’s just what’s worked for me, but I’m so surprised how effective the ‘uh’ has been! 😂

Repeatedly saying ‘no’ and moving her away from whatever the ‘no’ relates to. I can’t think of any other way. Sounds perhaps harsh, but it’s a bit like training a dog - repetition is the only way. I try to get her to play with something else, but it takes a while to move her attention

I’ve heard instead of saying ‘no’ for example ‘don’t bite’ you should correct /redirect behaviour ‘teeth is for chewing’ or ‘no’ for throwing food you should say ‘food is to eat’ not sure how well that works but apparently that makes more sense to a baby 🤗

Yeah, same as @Evelina. I haven't worked with babies but I worked with disabled young children and the focus to help most ages and abilities is on positive reinforcement. You can say "No" and explain why briefly like "that's dangerous/dirty". But redirection keeps them focused on what they should be doing rather than just moving them away with nothing to hold their attention away from what they've been told to stop. Also at this age they will just need to be shown and told over and over again because that's the stage of development their brains are at! Obviously some people get results from different things so it's whatever works for you but having realistic expectations helps to take the pressure off both you and your child!

Trying to act nonchalant and casually redirect I find helps. I find shouting “no!” unhelpful if the attention can be safely redirected to something else. Maybe my girl is easily distracted but if I redirect her she usually forgets what she was doing in 5 seconds. Continually giving attention, however negative, to an action you don’t want them to do makes it more exciting. And/or they do it because they want attention and know it’s a sure fire way to get it.

Haha, my little one now says ' No' with the finger aswell!!!! when he knows he shouldn't be doing something, usually grabbing our elderly cat roughly. 🤦🏾‍♀️🥺 I've tried gentle hands, showing him how to pet nicely but he just doesn't get it.

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