Feeling anxious about night feeds

When my baby was first born my partner stayed in our spare room. I loved it because I could put the tv on whilst feeding and he wouldn’t wake me when his alarm went off. Remember this will pass though it may not feel like it now x

I have a very similar situation with a partner that works shifts… I am currently co-sleeping with my baby in our spare room. Partner is getting proper nights sleep and baby loves being next to me and will sleep for decent chunks. With a nap in the day when I can I’m finding this works really well and I’m much more rested. Also nice not trying to be considerate with lamps on/nappy changes/noise etc. we do miss sharing a bed together but both know it’s temporary and once baby is sleeping for a big chunk we’ll be back to being together again. Keep going momma xxxx

My baby has also become a nightmare at night lately (almost 4 weeks old), and I’m getting definite dread whenever I think about the nighttime , makes me feel black & depressed when I think about it 😢😭 Have no words of advice sorry just solidarity :-(

My partner has never changed rooms. Wakes up but is quickly back to sleep. Do you have a night light to feed by? We’ve got Hue lightbulbs and they have quite a good setting. Don’t worry about neighbours. Ours don’t hear once they are asleep

This might not help right now but I promise it gets easier! One day it will just happen and you’ll wake up before baby. I remember the dread of going to bed knowing it was only a matter of time! Keep going you can do this ❤️

Even though baby was sleeping in our room, I fed her in her nursery for night feeds. I would go in another room or have your husband sleep in another room if you have the option.

I did use another room to change and feed the baby in the newborn stages. There were a few things we did to help baby go to sleep quickly - we used a love to dream swaddle up swaddle and it meant baby didn’t wake up when we put him down due to Moro reflex, and used a rocking chair to help baby fall asleep on me. When baby is 4-6 months, look into Ferber method sleep training, worked wonders for us! Try not to feel anxious - I did too. I used to dread going to bed but you can’t control the baby crying and as much as your husband needs sleep, you do too. Both of you being sleep deprived is called being parents, so don’t feel like you’re responsible for a bad nights sleep. It’s not in your control, and if you could control it, you’d all be sleeping! 😂 I promise it gets better and you’ll soon miss those night feeds 🥹🤍

I feed and change baby in our living room so my partner has uninterrupted sleep at night. Stay strong, one day you will have your sleep back. I know how difficult it is not to get a good night's sleep. I am missing it heaps.

@Parris soon miss those night feeds?! Wuutt?!

My partner slept in a spare room until our baby started sleeping through the night, at first he was staying with us trying to help me during the night feeds until one morning he had car accident (he was fine) then I told him to stay in spare room and if I'll be really struggling I'll call him.

Thanks all, husband has gone downstairs to sleep on sofa bed 🛌, I’m up with little one trying to settle him

@Elle I know lol I don’t think I’ll miss being up all night