Do I have any options
I’m currently living with my baby’s dad, it’s just the most unhappy situation. He really really hates me. He’s always annoyed at me, always telling me I’m mentally ill, that my job is the cause of all our problems because I only work at the perfume shop, but I did when he first met me so i dont get why he only now tells me how shit he thinks it is. We’ve slept in separate bedrooms since January and I have tried to break up with him a few times but he just ignores it and still calls us a couple. He argues and gets quite aggressive in front of my 20 month old and when I try to take my LO out the room to move him away, he sometimes will block the doorway and not let me leave. I have had the police out for this reason before.
Basically I have no options. He owns the house we live in. He has savings. I’m in £2,000 debt because of maternity when I got no pay for 3 months but still had to contribute to bills. I can’t pay off my debt because I’m only working 22.5 hours a week when my baby is in nursery. The rest of the time I’m a sahm. It’s not enough money to pay off my debt as well as put towards bills, buy the food shops and buy everything my baby needs etc plus all Christmas gifts for family and any outings we go on.
I also can’t even put some money to the side as a safety net to move out with because I have to show him exactly where my money has gone each month because he says I spend all my money on myself but I literally never buy myself anything. I’m even in a bra that I bought from Primark whilst pregnant which is about 2 sizes too big now but I haven’t been able to replace. I really am not spending money on myself. He keeps telling me to get a better job but I can’t because childcare is so expensive it wouldn’t make any sense to work anymore anyway. And I can’t get any benefits because of his savings being around 10k.
How can I move out?
I have no parents to help me, I can’t go to my friends
I have no money for a deposit anywhere and wouldn’t get accepted to a private landlord because I don’t work full time even though my baby isnt even 2 yet and I don’t think I could apply for a council house because technically I’m not homeless and I can’t apply benefits until I’m not living with him anymore. I just feel stuck.
A few months ago I did find someone to move in with, another single mum who wanted to house share but when I told him, he begged me to stay and said things would be different. They weren’t.
Any advice would be nice please
Sorry for the rant
I wonder if you could go to or call citizens advice one of the days he’s working/out. They may be able to discuss different financial/ living options with you? Sorry you’re in this situation xx